10 Reasons Why Libras Are So Hard to Date, According to an Astrologer

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Professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism explains what Libras are like in relationships

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Last Updated: December 12, 2025 Fact Checked

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Libras are all about harmony, so why do some people find them hard to date? Like all the signs, Libras have their strengths and weaknesses, and it’s a good idea to be aware of them before getting into a relationship with one. Below, you’ll find our complete guide on why Libras can be tough to date, including insights from professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism on what to watch out for. Let’s get started!

Why Libras Are So Hard to Date

Professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism says Libras are attractive and romantic, but they often flip-flop. This indecisiveness can make them unreliable or flaky in relationships, which is one reason people find them hard to date. Libra is also ruled by Venus, which can make them a little superficial and flirty with other people.

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They’re indecisive.

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Their inability to make decisions can drive you crazy. “Libras flip-flop,” and they go back and forth because “they’re constantly trying to balance things,” says Eyedealism.^{[1]
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Expert Interview} As a result, you might feel like you're making all the decisions, which can lead to resentment. Just try to understand that, as the sign of the scales, your Libra is always trying to find harmony. They don’t mean to frustrate you—it’s just that they don't want to make the wrong choice, so they'd rather not pick anything.^{[2]
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- To help your Libra with their indecisiveness, give them just a few choices so they don't get overwhelmed. Instead of asking a super general question, like “What do you want for lunch,” go with something like: "Your turn to pick lunch. Are we doing Thai food or burgers? I could totally go either way."
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They’re very flirtatious.

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Libras flirt with everyone, which can be tough on their partners. Air signs are outgoing and super friendly, but your Libra might not know when to stop. They’re naturally charming and charismatic, so they might not even realize that they're flirting with other people! Libras just want to be loved by everyone, so they don't think about how their flirtatious behavior can hurt.
- All this flirtatiousness is no surprise, considering Libras are ruled by the planet of love! “Libra is ruled by Venus,” so “being in a relationship is extremely important to them,” Eyedealism explains.^{[3]
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- It's important to accept your Libra for who they are, but that doesn't mean you can't stand up for your feelings. You might say, "I noticed you were getting friendly with that girl. It made me feel uncomfortable—like I wasn't even there."

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They can be self-centered.

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Sometimes, Libras might be a little too focused on themselves. You've probably noticed that your Libra prefers to be the life of the party everywhere they go. Their charm and charisma might be the thing that won you over in the first place, but if they’re not careful, their tendency to be a social butterfly might make you feel ignored or neglected, especially if they never ask for your opinion or find out how you're feeling.
- If you’re dating a Libra, don’t be afraid to speak up and let them know that you’re not feeling like a priority to them. Chances are, your Libra boo just doesn’t realize that they’re leaving you out.
- They’re naturally caring and want to make their partner happy, so they’ll probably do whatever they can to make things right!^{[4]
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They’re superficial.

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Appearances are everything to Libras, and that can be a lot of pressure. No matter how wonderful and attractive you are, you might catch yourself feeling like you're not handsome or beautiful enough for them. You can blame Libra’s planetary ruler, Venus, for their vain streak! It’s not just the planet of love—it’s also the planet of beauty. As a result, Libras tend to be naturally attractive, and they’re drawn to people who appeal to their sense of aesthetics, says Eyedealism.^{[5]
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- For instance, they might make a rude comment if you're looking a little sloppy or unkempt.
- According to Eyedealism, they also get turned off by anything that seems “gross” to them (like a stain on a shirt or anything having to do with hygiene).^{[6]
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- To avoid their criticism, take time getting yourself ready before you see them. They'll appreciate that you look polished and put together!

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They can be co-dependent.

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Libras will jump into a relationship just for the sake of companionship. You may have noticed that Libras are never single for very long. Eyedealism explains that this is probably because being in a relationship is super important to them.^{[7]
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Expert Interview} While this doesn't sound like a problem, it can be an issue if Libra gets into something new just because they don't want to be alone, rather than because it’s actually a good match.
- If you feel like a Libra wants love, but doesn’t necessarily want you, this would be a red flag! Make sure there’s genuine chemistry between the two of you, and that you click on a deeper level before getting swept up in Libra’s hopelessly romantic attitude.

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They'll do anything to avoid conflict.

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Libras have a hard time managing problems, so they ignore them. This can make it hard to deal with normal relationship concerns. They'd rather pretend like nothing is wrong or just tell you what they think you want to hear, which isn’t a healthy way to communicate in a relationship.
- You can encourage or inspire your Libra to make changes and speak up more when they have an issue, but don't push too hard, or they may shut down.
- For example, you could say something like, "I know we agreed to go to a movie this weekend, but I’m sensing that you'd rather do something else. I'm okay with that! What are your thoughts?"

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They hide their feelings.

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Libras are hard to get to know because they are afraid to open up. This sign doesn't like feeling vulnerable. They may open up over time, but their default setting is to keep their emotions in check and maintain a peaceful, calm attitude.^{[8]
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- If you’re noticing a problem but they haven’t spoken up about it, you could say something like, “Hey, I’m sensing a weird energy and want to make sure we’re alright. Is everything okay?”

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They’re overly sensitive.

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Libras tend to take everything personally, which can cause conflict. Just because they hide their feelings doesn't mean they aren't in touch with them—on the contrary, Libras take even constructive criticism personally and tend to blow comments out of proportion. You might feel like you can't say anything without them getting upset about it, which can definitely be frustrating in a relationship..
- If you bring up a concern, use language that describes how you feel, instead of accusing them of something. For instance, instead of saying, "You flirt too much with other guys," try saying something like, "I feel hurt when I see you flirting with other guys."

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They’re unreliable.

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Libras often promise too much, and then they can't deliver. In some ways, they can't help it—this sign doesn't like to disappoint people, so they can't say no to anything. Usually, they just take on too much, and aren't able to follow through with the promises they made.
- For instance, maybe your Libra promised you they'd bring a bottle of wine to dinner, and they show up empty-handed because they actually didn’t have time to stop at the store after work.
- In the future, you might preface your request by saying, "I know you've got a lot on your plate right now. If you don't have time to grab the wine, I can definitely get it! Just let me know."

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They're habitual ghosters.

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Libras will disappear without a word, and you may never know why. Rather than confronting you to talk about what's going on in your relationship, they may suddenly stop returning your calls or just disappear from your life altogether. Again, this is because Libras just don't do conflict. Eyedealism says it’s not a good sign if they suddenly seem cold, distant, or unengaged. “They’re so polite, so they won’t necessarily come out and say it, but they’ll do kind of evasive maneuvers.”^{[9]
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- Work on developing effective communication early on in the relationship, so your Libra will feel more comfortable talking about things with you.
- If you notice them withdrawing or being less present, consider checking in with them about where they’re at with the relationship. This type of convo could reveal that they’ve been considering ghosting, but at least you’ll know where they stand!

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