What Does It Mean When Someone Puts a Sock on the Doorknob?

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Plus, other dorm room etiquette to be aware of

Co-authored by Tami Claytor and Marcus Pruitt, BS

Last Updated: August 18, 2025 Fact Checked

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In college, a sock on the doorknob let's your roommate know that you need some privacy because you're about to have sex with someone. Essentially, it's a makeshift "do not disturb" sign. But why did people start doing it, and are socks still used for this? Below, we answer those questions and more! We even go over other common dorm room etiquette. Read on for everything you need to know!

Sock on Door Meaning Explained

When someone puts a sock on the door, they’re letting their roommate know they have company over and need privacy, typically for romantic or sexual reasons. Socks on doors aren’t used as much anymore because everyone has smartphones, but they can still work in a pinch if you need to warn your roommate not to come in!

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Section 1 of 4:

What does a sock on the door mean?

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   A sock on the door means the person inside needs some privacy. Putting a sock on the doorknob is typically used to let your roommate(s) know that you're having sex with someone and they shouldn't walk in. Since you and your roommate both have keys, a locked door won’t suffice! A door sock is the next best thing. Think of it like a makeshift “do not disturb” sign.

   • In some cases, neck ties may also be used, but they aren’t as common.
   • Socks on doors are mostly a college thing, so the meaning isn't universally recognized.
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Section 2 of 4:

Are door socks still used today?

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   Socks on doors aren't as common now that everyone has cell phones. Back in the day, texting wasn’t as common among college roommates, and before that, not everyone had cell phones. So socks were used as a way to let your roommate know you were getting down and needed some privacy. Nowadays, practically everyone has access to a smartphone, so they can easily warn their roommate ahead of time.

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Where did door socks originate?

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   Socks on doorknobs started on American college campuses. As far as which college the trend started at and how long ago it was, the details are unclear. But putting a sock on the door to let your roommate(s) know you were about to get some action is known to come from college dorm rooms on U.S. campuses. The practice quickly caught on before the advent of instant messaging.

   • People used socks because they’re readily available in a dorm room! Whether it’s you or your roommate(s), chances are someone left a sock on the floor.
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More Dorm Room Etiquette

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   Raising your bed to make extra space in your dorm. Now, lofting your bed isn’t a necessity, but it does grant you more space. With more space, you won’t have to worry about taking up any of your roommate’s space, saving both of you a lot of trouble in the long run.

   • There’s nothing wrong with not raising your bed; it just means you won’t have as much space to work with, especially if your roommates raised theirs.
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   Being mindful of the noise you’re making. Once classes start to ramp up, you and your roommate(s) may be on different schedules. Whether one of you has an 8 AM or the other has a 7 PM, it’s important to be courteous of the amount of noise you’re making. Loud noises can disrupt your roommate(s), other people on your floor, or result in disciplinary action from your RA (residential advisor), so it’s best to keep it quiet (at least during quiet hours).
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   Cleaning up after yourself and keeping a standard of cleanliness. Everyone was raised differently, so you may have a different standard of cleanliness than your roommate(s). Whatever your standard may be, it’s important to keep your roommate in mind and consider the mess you’re leaving behind. This goes both ways, too! If they aren’t cleaning up after themselves, don’t be afraid to call them out.
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   Getting to know your roommate. If you’re living with someone, you should at least get to know them! Ask them questions to learn more about them, like where they’re from, where they went to high school, what they like to do, and things like that.

   • You don’t have to become best friends with them or anything, but knowing about your roommate can help soften any awkwardness and lay the groundwork for a solid friendship.
   • Getting to know your roommate can help you socialize with others, too, as they may have a network of friends that they’re willing to introduce you to.
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• If you’re getting ready to have sex or romantic relations in your dorm, text your roommate beforehand to give them a heads up.
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