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With his deep curiosity, intense loyalty, and sensual nature, it’s no surprise that you’ve fallen for a Scorpio man—he’s known for being magnetic and enticing, after all! If you want to ensure that your crush or partner is just as into you as you are into him, we’ve got you covered. We spoke with professional astrologers to learn about the best ways to make a Scorpio man obsessed with you so he never lets you go. Keep reading to learn more!
How to Attract a Scorpio Man
Professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism says being mysterious and only revealing little bits about yourself at a time will intrigue a Scorpio man and make him obsess over you. Appeal to his sensual nature by flirting with him and giving him compliments, too. Show him that you’re loyal and honest to gain his trust.
Play hard to get by letting him know you have other things to do. When a Scorpio likes you, he won’t mind doing a little bit of chasing—in fact, it will probably only make him like you more, says Eyedealism.[1]XExpert SourceAngel Eyedealism Professional AstrologerExpert Interview A little mystery gets him going, so don’t be afraid to be a little hot and cold, or tell him that you’re too busy to see him for one week.
For instance, if he asks you to hang out over the weekend, you might say, “Oh, I’d love to, but I’m actually all booked up! Could we try for next week instead?”
Angel Eyedealism is a professional astrologer with nearly 30 years of astrology experience. She specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography.
Aliza Kelly is an astrologer and spiritual coach. Her expertise has been featured in The New York Times, The Drew Barrymore Show, CNN, and more.
Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 30 years of experience. Her work has been featured in CNN, The Today Show, Rolling Stone, and more.
Stay on your Scorpio man’s mind by teasing him a little. According to Eyedealism, Scorpio is the “sign of sexualities,” and “if they're not sensing your sexual interest in them…they would lose interest.”[3]XExpert SourceAngel Eyedealism Professional AstrologerExpert Interview So, seduce your Scorpio man by getting a little flirty! Put on an outfit that makes you feel confident and get his attention by making intense eye contact. Then, tell a witty joke and playfully touch his arm or grab his hand so he knows you’re into him.
Scorpio is a sensual and sexual sign, so don’t be afraid to make a few spicy comments. A little innuendo or a suggestive compliment is sure to leave him wanting more.
Scorpios love being curious about the people they’re dating. Instead of oversharing, keep a few things about your life to yourself, and only reveal information a little bit at a time. Eyedealism agrees, saying, “If you provide a little bit of a mystery that they need to unravel, [Scorpio] will keep pulling on the yarn forever.” So, “don’t give it all up right away” and “leave a veil of mystery,” she explains, because “they will be intrigued and they will obsess over you.”[4]XExpert SourceAngel Eyedealism Professional AstrologerExpert Interview
Being mysterious will make your Scorpio man think about you more, and he’ll probably try to get closer to you to uncover some of your mystery.
For instance, instead of saying something like, “I grew up in New Hampshire, but moved to Michigan when I was 12,” you might say, “I’ve kinda lived all over the place. It’s so fun to travel around, especially when you’re young!”
No topics are off-limits for the complex and curious Scorpio. Be prepared to analyze things that you would have never dreamed of, and don’t be afraid to talk about weird stuff, too. He’ll appreciate that you’re willing to indulge his discussions, and having a fun conversation with you will make him think about you after you leave.[5]XResearch source
Many Scorpio signs feel comfortable talking about things that might be a little taboo, like sex, intimacy, and human psychology. Try to open your mind a little bit, and don’t be afraid to bring up stuff that you wouldn’t talk about with other people.
He might ask you questions like, “Do you think the afterlife is real?” or, “Isn’t it interesting how the brain named itself?”
Reader Poll: We asked 610 wikiHow readers who've dated Scorpio men, and only 7% of them agreed that the best way to attract them is by being intelligent and analytical.[Take Poll] So don’t feel like you have to be an expert on deep topics to attract your Scorpio. He’ll likely have enough excitement about the topic for the both of you, and he’ll want to get to know your interests as well!
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With a Scorpio, flattery goes a long way. If he just got a new haircut or he put on a new outfit, be sure to call out these little things, and tell him how much you like them. The more you boost his ego, the more he’ll think about how awesome you are—which will only make him want you more.
You might say things like, “Wow, new hairstyle? You totally pull it off.”
Or, “Cool outfit! You’re always so on top of the latest trends.”
Scorpio needs to know that you’re serious about him to let you in fully. Eyedealism says Scorpio is the “sign of obsession,” who is “looking to find someone to obsess over.” To do that, though, they need “to see your loyalty” and “gauge your loyalty to them,” she explains.[6]XExpert SourceAngel Eyedealism Professional AstrologerExpert Interview So, make sure to keep your promises to him and show up when you say you will. Remind him how you feel about him and reassure him that you only have eyes for him.
Eyedealism adds that Scorpio isn’t a super relaxed sign—instead, they tend to be pretty tense. If you’re trustworthy and solid, though, they will relax.[7]XExpert SourceAngel Eyedealism Professional AstrologerExpert Interview
Supporting your Scorpio man is a great way to show him your loyalty. Show interest in his hobbies and goals, and motivate him to achieve his dreams. When he reaches a milestone or gets over a huge hurdle, celebrate his success.
As a fixed sign, Scorpio is determined, reliable, and loyal. So, they want someone who is similarly solid, stable, and sincere.[8]XResearch source
If there’s one thing a Scorpio can’t stand, it’s a liar. Scorpio is a water sign who values honesty very much, so if you tell him a lie (even a little one!) or act fake, he’s sure to back away from your relationship. As astrologer and spiritual coach Aliza Kelly notes, “Scorpios take time to build trust.”[9]XExpert SourceAliza Kelly Astrologer and Spiritual CoachExpert InterviewBe your genuine self around him and be honest when he asks you questions. Don’t hide your true thoughts and opinions, and definitely don’t sugarcoat things, even if you think it might be kinder.[10]XResearch source
Even small white lies, like telling him you like a gift when you really don’t, might hurt his feelings. Being honest will bring you two even closer than you already are.
Don’t be offended if it takes him a little while to bare his soul to you. Scorpios are terrified of rejection, and showing someone the real you is very scary.
Kelly adds that “Scorpios are a bit of a slow burn in terms of building intimacy and building honesty and establishing…a solid foundation.” However, she says, “Once that is established, Scorpios are incredibly loyal and incredibly trustworthy.”[15]XExpert SourceAliza Kelly Astrologer and Spiritual CoachExpert Interview
Live your own life, and let your Scorpio man do the same. Scorpio likes their alone time, where they can pursue their own interests and process their deep emotions privately. Make sure you’re keeping up with your friends, your hobbies, and your career, and give your Scorpio man the space to do the same. If you give him the room to flourish and aren’t breathing down his neck all the time, he’s going to become obsessed with you and your laid back nature.[16]XResearch source
Plus, this gives him more time to chase you instead of feeling like you’re smothering him.
Try not to come off too eager, since that could push him away. Instead of always reaching out to make plans first, let him come to you at least half of the time. That way, he’ll wonder why you haven’t reached out, and he’ll probably think about all the fun stuff you might be doing without him.
For example, if you planned a date last week, wait for him to text you and plan something instead of texting him again.
Water signs like Scorpio don’t love displays of vanity. It’s totally fine to spend time on how you look, but try not to obsess over it, especially in front of your Scorpio man. He’ll appreciate that you’re confident enough to head out without worrying about how you look, and he’ll want to spend much more time with you.
In general, you should try to look good for yourself, not anyone else. If you feel confident with your appearance, that’s great! Your Scorpio man will notice, and he’ll like you even more.
To a Scorpio man, what’s most important is that you’re true to yourself. Whether you love to dress up or keep things relaxed, he just wants to see you being your genuine, authentic self.
Scorpios tend to be a little flirty, even when they’re dating someone else. Try not to let this bother you—while it might not seem like it on the outside, Scorpios are intensely loyal, and they’d never do anything to jeopardize your relationship, says astrologer Jessica Lanyadoo.[17]XExpert SourceJessica Lanyadoo AstrologerExpert Interview Let him live his life how he wants to, and you’ll never be able to get rid of him.[18]XResearch source
He might also have a lot of female friends, too. The best course of action is to be friendly toward them and try to maintain a connection with them. That way, you all become friends, and you’ll be able to see that they aren’t a threat to you.
If your Scorpio gets a little jealous of you, though, Eyedealism says that’s a pretty clear sign that he’s into you! She notes that showing interest and acting a little obsessively means Scorpio likes you.[19]XExpert SourceAngel Eyedealism Professional AstrologerExpert Interview
Scorpio is very adventurous when it comes to sex. Lanyadoo agrees that Scorpio is a sexual sign.[20]XExpert SourceJessica Lanyadoo AstrologerExpert Interview Don’t do anything you aren’t comfortable with, but try to keep an open mind, and try things that you’ve never done before to spice up your relationship. If you’re open-minded about his wants and needs, he’ll never let you go.[21]XResearch source
Scorpio men, in particular, tend to have fairly high sex drives. Try to match his energy, and take the time to initiate sex sometimes, too.
If you want to win a Scorpio man's heart, show him you're the real deal and that you're worthy of his trust. Scorpios are slow to open up to people, but once they do, they're very loyal. Open up to him and show him you have depth and substance, and show interest in what he has to say as well. Scorpio men want a partner who is authentic, deep, passionate, and sensitive, like they are.
Don't give it all up to a Scorpio right away. Leave a veil of mystery and then they will be intrigued and obsessed over you. If you open yourself up too soon, they're going to lose interest, especially if they're not sensing your sexual interest.
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Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings.
Don't give it all up right away. Leave a veil of mystery and then they will be intrigued and obsessed over you. If you open yourself up too soon, they're gonna lose interest, specially if they're not sensing your sexual interest.
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Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings.
Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings.
They don't. They are the most distrustful sign and they see secrets as powerful weapons. That's why Scorpios usually want to find out about other people without revealing theirs. So, if the Scorpio reveals their secrets, then that means they're very serious about you.
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