The Best Sex Toys for Long-Distance Couples

Explore thrilling toys for him and her (and how they improve your relationship)

Co-authored by We-Vibe and Dan Hickey

Last Updated: December 11, 2025 Fact Checked

What is a long-distance sex toy?

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For Her

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For Him

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Tips for Fun & Pleasure

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Benefits

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If you’re in a long-distance relationship and feel like your virtual sex life is getting a bit stale, a long-distance sex toy could be just the thing you need to spice things up! Long-distance sex toys are used or worn by one partner and controlled by the other with a remote or an app from far away. We’ve partnered with We-Vibe, a global leader in connected sexual wellness, to show you what kinds of toys are available for her and for him, plus how they can improve your long-distance relationship.

According to their research, 80% of long-distance couples miss sexual intimacy the most when they’re apart, and more than half (52%) of those using app-connected sex toys say it adds excitement to their intimate lives and reduces frustration. As it turns out, couples who engage in sex more frequently (in person or virtually) consistently report higher levels of satisfaction! So, keep scrolling to see which tantalizing toy is right for you!

Long-Distance Sex Toys to Explore

App-controlled vibrators, rabbits, and suction devices like the We-Vibe Melt put a long-distance spin on classic women’s sex toys.
Wearable long-distance toys, like the Moxie+ panty vibrator or Bond vibrating penis ring, are a fun way to tease partners from afar.
Or, try vibrating butt plugs and prostate massagers like the We-Vibe Vector+ for discreet, partner-controlled stimulation.

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What is a long-distance sex toy?

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Long-distance sex toys are controlled by a partner over Bluetooth or WiFi. These vibrating, interactive toys are operated remotely with an app or remote control so that one partner can “take charge” of the other’s pleasure. They can be used when couples are in the same room, out in public (for a naughty adventure), or—you guessed it—over long distances where couples can’t physically be together.
- Most long-distance toys are wearable vibrators, masturbation sleeves, butt plugs, prostate massagers, or vibrating penis rings that can be worn by one partner and controlled by the other. The vibration pattern and intensity are in the hands of whoever has the remote!
- Some sophisticated devices are compatible with VR headsets and in-app video chatting, or can sync with music or even audiobooks for a fun and unique experience.
- Long-distance sex toys are sometimes called teledildonics (yes, that’s a real word).
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App-controlled toys can be operated over larger distances than remote-controlled ones. Instead of being limited to the short distance between the remote and the toy, an app-enabled toy can be paired to a nearby device and then controlled by the app user or their partner. Thanks to the wonders of the Internet and smartphones, the partner doesn’t have to be anywhere near the toy themselves—in fact, they can be in an entirely different country!
- The We-Vibe app is a pioneer in this space. By connecting with your partner over the app, you can turn any We-Vibe app-compatible toy into a long-distance sex toy, too! It doesn’t matter if it’s a personal massager or a couples vibrator—once it’s synced up, it’s in your partner’s control.
  - How does the app work? Once the iOS- and Android-compatible app is downloaded to your and your partner’s phones, grab your fully charged toy and set it to pairing mode by holding the control button down for a few seconds. Find your partner in your contacts and connect to them via video chat. While you talk face-to-face, you can keep control of the toy yourself or share the controls with your partner from wherever they are in the world.

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Long-Distance Sex Toys for Her

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Rabbit-style or classic vibrators Just about any female sex toy comes in a remote-controlled version, including a good old vibrator or rabbit! These look and feel just like a self-controlled vibrator, but with the added spice of being operated by a lover from across the country (or just across the room). Most rabbits can be worn, but wands and other vibrators will still need to be held against your genitals to work.
- The We-Vibe Wand 2 cordless wand vibrator is a great option for those who are new to remote play because you have control over where the wand goes (or doesn’t). However, the power and patterns of the vibrations are all up to your partner’s desire.
- For those who crave dual stimulation, the app-controlled We-Vibe Nova 2 rabbit vibrator delivers powerful vibrations to the G-Spot and clitoris simultaneously, resulting in deeper, full-bodied pleasure (even though your partner may be miles away).
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Suction devices Suction toys and vibrators have a small “cup” that forms a seal around the clitoris and deliver air pulses and vibrations that mimic the feeling of receiving oral sex (if you close your eyes, it’s almost like your partner is there with you!). These are usually handheld toys, giving you some control over where you feel stimulated (even when the air pulses and vibration are controlled long-distance).
- The We-Vibe Melt pleasure air clitoral stimulator has 12 different intensity levels to match your needs. Its slim shape is easy to hold, making it easy to use during long-distance sessions (or even during in-person sex when your partner is in town).
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Wearable vibrators “Wearable” is an umbrella term that covers any vibrator or toy you don’t have to hold, including rabbits, some egg vibrators, vibrating panties, and butt plugs. These long-distance toys are fun to use for foreplay, during a FaceTime session with your lover, or even underneath your clothes for tantalizing teasing while you’re doing chores or wrapping up work (or even in public).
- The We-Vibe Sync 2 couples vibrator has 10 intensity levels that target the G-spot and clitoris with the tap of your finger on the We-Vibe app. It can also be worn during sex to spread the good vibes to your partner’s penis when you’re finally reunited!
- We-Vibe’s Moxie+ wearable panty vibrator is held in place against your clitoris with a small magnet attachment that sits outside your underwear. It’s controlled by the We-Vibe app or a remote, giving you options for how you want to surrender control.

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Long-Distance Sex Toys for Him

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Vibrating penis rings An app-controlled vibrating ring goes around the shaft of the penis or the scrotum (or both, depending on the size and design) to deliver rumbly pleasure from afar. They can be worn during sex or a video session with a long-distance partner, or even underneath clothing for discreet foreplay and teasing before the main event. Some rings have an arm that rests against the perineum for extra stimulation, and some even have an attached butt plug or prostate massager for those who enjoy anal stimulation.
- The We-Vibe Bond wearable stimulation ring has 10 different intensity levels, all controlled by the We-Vibe app. Its discreet design and quiet vibrations make it a great option for tantalizing foreplay underneath your clothes.
- For more intense sensations, the We-Vibe Verge vibrating perineum stimulator extends between your legs, giving your long-distance partner control over multiple erogenous zones at once.
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Vibrating butt plugs and prostate massagers Butt plugs and prostate massagers are inserted into the anus for those who enjoy stimulation in the rear. Butt plugs can be used by anyone, regardless of gender, while prostate massagers are designed to curve and contact the prostate gland in men (also known as the P-spot). Both types of toys come in a variety of sizes, shapes, and materials so that you can find the “perfect fit” for your body.
- The We-Vibe Ditto+ vibrating anal plug is a great option for those who are new to anal play. It’s a small but powerful toy made with soft silicone in an ergonomic shape that’s controlled with a control button on the base—or by a partner with the We-Vibe app.
- For prostate play, try the We-Vibe Vector+ prostate massager. It’s like a rabbit vibrator for men—the bulbed arm contacts the prostate gland while the flexible outer arm vibrates against the perineum for a deep, complex feeling of pleasure.
A masturbation sleeve (or masturbator) is a cylindrical sheath that moves up and down the penis (or that you can thrust in and out of). Most sleeves are operated by hand and may have buttons that control vibrating or suction sensations. However, there are some models that are remote- or app-controlled. This lets your partner control the speed, pressure, vibration pattern, and more while you sit back for hands-free bliss.

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Tips for a Fun Long-Distance Session

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Communicate with your partner about your sexual needs and how to fulfill them. Navigating a long-distance relationship requires strong communication, including about whether you’re satisfied with your current sex life. In fact, more communication and certainty in your LDR leads to a better long-distance sex life!^{[1]
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Research source} First, ask yourself what you need from your partner sexually and what you can do as a couple to meet those needs. Do you want more pleasure or intimacy during phone or video sex? Do you want your partner to have more control? Does planning remote sex take away from the fun and spontaneity?
- Long-distance sex toys are a popular answer for many couples. If you’d like to try one, mention it to your partner and explain how you think they’ll help you feel more connected and sexually fulfilled. Make sure to listen to and respect their needs, too.
- If they seem hesitant at first, give them some space to come around to the idea and make sure you’re both on board before trying one out. After all, you’ll have the best experience as a couple if you’re both enthusiastic about remote pleasure!
- Toys are a common solution, but they aren’t the only one. Some couples opt for counseling, an open relationship, or other strategies. It’s your relationship and sex life, so go with whatever works best for you.
Nothing ruins a remote sex session like a spotty internet connection! Make sure you’ve got a stable WiFi connection before you get busy, and place your phone on “do not disturb” mode to avoid distracting notifications and calls. While you’re at it, go ahead and set the mood for yourself, even though your partner is away. Some music and dim lighting can make the moment feel even more sensual and romantic!^{[2]
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Hop on a video call for a deeper sense of intimacy (and more fun). Seeing your partner’s face (and body) while you’re using a long-distance sex toy enhances the experience and makes it feel more like you’re together, especially if it’s been a long time since you’ve seen each other or communicated. Hop on FaceTime, Zoom, Skype, or whichever platform is easiest for you two and let the fun begin!
- Some toys come with in-app video calling capabilities so that you can control your partner’s toy and the call from the same app.
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Choose a toy that’s near your comfort zone to experiment with first. With the huge array of options, the best choice is the one that suits your needs and likes. Start close to your comfort zone by choosing a toy that lines up with your favorite erogenous zones. For example, if you love clitoral play, then go for a wearable vibrator that stimulates the clitoris.
- Whatever you choose, just make sure you and your partner are both comfortable with the app and the style of play.
- As long as you are open with communication and stay on the same page, it shouldn’t be long before the fun really begins!
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Have fun with foreplay and don’t be afraid to try new things! Did you know that the fun can start before you call up your partner? Use some old-school techniques alongside your new high-tech gadget, like flirting over text, sexting, or sharing a sensual playlist before your virtual date.^{[3]
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Research source} You could even ask your partner to wear their toy before your call so you can tease them while they wrap up chores or other tasks and build the anticipation (just make sure they’d be into that first!).
- However you decide to use your toy, remember to have fun and go with the flow. There’s no right or wrong way to do long-distance intimacy, so explore whatever feels fun and pleasurable for you both!

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Benefits of Long-Distance Sex Toys

In a long-distance relationship, you might start to feel like your video sex life is getting stale (or is just nonexistent). Introducing sex toys can help break a stale routine and add more fun back into your virtual intimacy. Even from a distance, they can help extend foreplay, reduce boredom or wandering minds during sex, and lead to more sexual exploration in general.^{[4]
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Toys can’t replace the feeling of real physical intimacy, but they can help maintain your sexual closeness while you’re physically separated. By grabbing the remote or app, you’re taking active control over each other’s pleasure—almost like you’re in the room together.
Picking out toys to use together as a couple forces you to communicate about your sexual needs and preferences. Sharing your likes, dislikes, and insecurities can often feel vulnerable or embarrassing, but some research suggests that couples who use toys are more likely to talk about sex.^{[5]
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Research source} This can help build trust between you and your partner, leading to a more fulfilling sex life.