I need help with my life
Lately I have been feeling like I’m going to be stuck in the same place in life. I’ve graduated high school and decided to take a gap year to find out who I am, what I want to do etc but I’m feeling very behind in life. I’ll be 20 in a couple months and I feel like I’ve done nothing to make myself happy. I feel like I’m just surviving and everyday is the same and I’m unmotivated to do anything. I used to want to be spontaneous and free but with everything going on right now I feel like I can’t be free and happy. I don’t want to just survive and see what will happen each day, I want to live and take control of my life but I don’t know how..
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I'm so happy you reached out. Times like this are meant for support and to remember you're not alone in what you're feeling. To start, the feeling "behind" is very common when we compare where we think we should be or use our friends or family members as barometers of our success. But remember, we are all on the same journey, just different points along the way. If you can imagine a circular running track of life rather than a flat line with one beginning point and one end point. In other words, we all get to the same point, but just maybe at different times.
I also hear overwhelm. This idea of how can I figure out the rest of my life? Can you start with small actions rather than one big action? In other words, what is one thing today that you can do to think or act upon about what makes you happy in regard to your future? Is it applying to one job/internship? Is it brainstorming 5 ways to use this gap year? Be patient, as you were wise to take this year to figure things out, and that's perfectly ok. Finally, ask yourself, what is the worst thing that can happen if you make the "wrong" choice? You gain new information that you didn't like, and you get to pivot to the next thing. So there is no "wrong" choice. Please remember to balance work with play while you figure all this out- that's important.
I am a licensed clinical social worker providing general information for educational purposes only. I am not liable for any decisions made or actions taken based on the information provided.
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I also hear overwhelm. This idea of how can I figure out the rest of my life? Can you start with small actions rather than one big action? In other words, what is one thing today that you can do to think or act upon about what makes you happy in regard to your future? Is it applying to one job/internship? Is it brainstorming 5 ways to use this gap year? Be patient, as you were wise to take this year to figure things out, and that's perfectly ok. Finally, ask yourself, what is the worst thing that can happen if you make the "wrong" choice? You gain new information that you didn't like, and you get to pivot to the next thing. So there is no "wrong" choice. Please remember to balance work with play while you figure all this out- that's important.
I am a licensed clinical social worker providing general information for educational purposes only. I am not liable for any decisions made or actions taken based on the information provided.
Hey, I am younger and I have a story to tell you and maybe it can help. I still go to school and I got to this place in life where I felt lost and had really no true friends to go to. I kept all of what I was feeling to myself and then later took it out on other people. I said and did things just because I had no motivation to do good anymore. The only way people saw me was when I said or did something bad. I got in a very deep and dark part in life where everything I used to love disappeared and I just could lay and do nothing for days on end. I started thinking about sad things if ykyk and really saw no good part in life. But, then everything changed in matters of hours when I thought to myself. "The only reason I am not happy is because I feel like I have nothing or no one to live for anymore." So I found people and active things to do even if I was down. And trust me it changed I went from a sad low person to someone who strives to be better always looking for new fun things to do. Whoever you are. You got this. Never stop being yourself always find the good in things and yourself. God bless you and your life.
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I mean, to be honest here! wikihow isn’t the place to resort to. I don’t wanna give the simple answer of getting professional like therapy or whatever but lowk you need therapy or whatever mental assessment. Because these issues that you’re saying sound WAY deeper than just “being stuck” like, are you okay??? Motivation is a complicated thing. like it can’t be fixed within one day and depending on if you’re simple demotivated with or without things such adhd really changes how you have to go about making things better. but on a simple tip thing, motivation often correlates with routine, if you get into routines that serve like actual helpful stuff, that allows you to get more done! you can’t expect to suddenly fixed or suddenly gain motivation, that’s unrealistic. everything about being happier as a person and life overall is just steps and a lot of times you don’t really different but after some of ACTUAL effort, you can reflect on yourself and think “man! i’m like not as bad as before! wow!”. but that’s just how i think about my own stuff, good luck guy.
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Get into entrepreneurship brah trust once u make it then u live free and lif will get better
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