fake friends: what should I do?
So I have a best friend that has been my bestie for a while. Recently, she started making fun of my body weight and being mean. I don't know what to do because every time she is mean, the next day she invites me over and treats me like the best person ever. She also started hanging out with these girls who are mean and I don't know if that is contributing. What should I do? PLEASE HELP
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Wow, that is a difficult situation. If this person is your bestie, it is worth having an honest conversation. Share how you are feeling and how what she is saying about you affects you. Set a clear boundary and let her know that comments about your body are not okay. While her new friend group may be influencing her behavior, she is still responsible for her choices. Most importantly, protect your confidence. Real friendship should build you up, not slowly chip away at your self-worth. A great opportunity to purchase the book One Friend? Two Friends? Good Friend? Bad Friend?: Teen's Guide to Creating Lifelong Friendships. This book will help you understand and develop the friendships that encourage and inspire you.
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i HATE flaky friends like this, the behavior of the friend is toxic and manipulative. Its important to prioritize YOUR mental health. When the friend invites you over after being mean, DECLINE. Keep distance to stop that toxic cycle & dont go investing time in people who make you feel bad.You deserve respect.
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Your best friend's friends are contributing to this, yes. I've been in this situation before. I had a best friend that I met at a new school when a first moved to the state. She was my only friend and was the only person who would talk to me. We made it to 7th grade together and I started talking and becoming friends with girls (who are still my friends to this day so no shade but...) who were all about their appearances and super popular. I wanted to fit in with my new friends because what can I say? Having friends is the best thing that can happen to a lonely girl in middle school. I started fixing my appearance and attitude, which eventually led up to me being mean to my bsf. Even though my new friends didn't exactly say anything about my bsf, I still felt embarrassed. So I started shutting her out hoping she would leave me alone. One day, we got in a huge fight and I stopped talking to her, my new friends encouraging me not to talk to her. A whole year went on and high school came, my old best friend and me were assigned to the same school bus. I had matured and came to miss her, so I decided to apologize and tell her the reasons why I had treated her so bad. We made up and I wasn't embarrassed of her anymore. My new friends who are also matured, now don't really care about others and popularities, just themselves which I kind of look up to (you would need to know them to understand), so anyways that's how I relate to your situation. Some people just tend to get too caught up in new situations, so for your friend, make it clear to her that you don't like how she's been treating you. If she stops being your friend, that is entirely her loss.
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