Chapstick Lesbian: Understanding the Queer Identity & Style

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Learn all about this popular queer term & what it means

Co-authored by Glenn Carreau

Last Updated: July 2, 2025 Fact Checked

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Have you heard the term “chapstick lesbian” tossed around online (or within the lesbian community), but can’t figure out what it means? We’ve got you covered! Chapstick lesbian is a term for a lesbian whose gender expression falls between butch and femme—they have some masculine characteristics, but don’t identify as “masc.” Chapstick lesbians typically have an androgynous or “soft butch” look, and a style that oozes practicality. Continue reading to discover more about this colorful term and the chapstick lesbian aesthetic!

Chapstick Lesbian: A Quick Definition

Chapstick lesbians embody masculine and butch traits without entirely falling into the masculine stereotype. They tend to emphasize practicality, blending masculine elements with androgynous or feminine characteristics, making “chapstick lesbian” fall somewhere in between masc and femme (sometimes called “soft masc.”)

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What is a “chapstick lesbian”?

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A chapstick lesbian has masculine traits but doesn’t fit the “butch” label. Style-wise, chapstick lesbians tend toward androgyny or a “soft-masc” aesthetic. So, “chapstick lesbian” is a label for lesbian-identifying people who don’t feel super feminine, but don’t label themselves as entirely masculine or butch, either. The chapstick lesbian vibe tends to be practical and sporty, falling in between masc and femme.^{[1]
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- Chapstick lesbians might also identify as “tomboys” or “sporty girls” (although, of course, everyone has different preferences).
- Typically, chapstick lesbians aren’t overly concerned about fashion or beauty; they take care of their appearance, but they’re low-maintenance about it.

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Origin of the Term “Chapstick Lesbian”

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The term “chapstick lesbian” originated in the 1990s. During an episode of Ellen (the ’90s sitcom starring Ellen DeGeneres), Ellen’s parents ask her what a “dipstick lesbian” is. Ellen clarifies that the correct term is “lipstick lesbian,” then tells them that she “would be a chapstick lesbian” instead. Thus, the term “chapstick lesbian” began as a play on “lipstick lesbian” (which is a term for a feminine-presenting lesbian).^{[2]
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- Is there an official chapstick lesbian flag? No, there isn’t an official flag specifically for chapstick lesbians (although creators identifying as chapstick lesbians have made their own interpretations of a chapstick lesbian flag).

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Chapstick Lesbian Style & Aesthetic

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Practicality is the key to achieving the “chapstick lesbian” aesthetic. Chapstick lesbians go for comfortable, low-maintenance looks—nothing too fancy or glamorous. The chapstick lesbian look also doesn’t include too much makeup (or, if it’s there, it’s very natural-looking). Of course, the exception is a tube of lip balm or Chapstick; after all, that’s just a common-sense thing to carry with you!^{[3]
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- The chapstick lesbian style is also very functional—clothing and personal items have a purpose beyond just style and trendiness.
- The average chapstick lesbian looks no-nonsense and ready for anything!
Since comfort and functionality are the name of the game, chapstick lesbian clothing should be easy to move in and somewhat relaxed. Ideally, clothing should also be easy to layer; that way, you can adjust if you get too hot or cold. Thus, ideal chapstick lesbian clothing staples include flannel and button-down shirts, utility jackets, hiking boots, and cargo pants.^{[4]
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Numerous TikTok creators have shown off their “chapstick” styles. If you need some inspiration for a “chapstick” look, there are plenty of ideas floating around on TIkTok. Just remember: no matter your identity or what labels you use, you can wear anything you want!
- For example, @spagootersam’s TIkTok showcases a week of comfy chapstick outfits, with loose-fitting shorts and t-shirts, baseball caps, a pullover sweater, and a button-down jacket.
- Creator @breannewilliamson posted a TIkTok with a “chapstick lesbian ootd” (“outfit of the day”), which included a loose-fitting shirt with a jacket worn over it.
- TikTok creator @makingemi’s “what I wore this week as a chapstick lesbian” video included a button-down shirt and jean jacket, as well as a casual outfit with jeans, a plain t-shirt, and a sweater.

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The Difference Between Chapstick Lesbian & Similar Terms

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Chapstick lesbian vs. lipstick lesbian “Lipstick lesbian” is a type of gender expression; it describes a lesbian with a very feminine style, and characteristics traditionally seen as “femme.” The term “lipstick lesbian” has been around longer than its chapstick counterpart (since at least the 1980s); “chapstick lesbian” is the more practical, androgynous version of “lipstick lesbian.”^{[5]
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- After all, lipstick is associated with beauty and feminine style, while Chapstick is a product all genders use to keep their lips hydrated.
- That’s why “chapstick lesbian” describes a lesbian who embodies masculine and some androgynous or feminine characteristics without fully fitting either stereotype.
“Butch” is a type of gender expression; in terms of lesbian slang, it describes a lesbian who embraces a masculine style and gender presentation. By contrast, a chapstick lesbian has some masculine traits blended with androgynous or even feminine ones.
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Chapstick lesbian vs. soft butch “Soft butch” is a term for a lesbian who has some masculine traits, but softens the look with some androgynous or slightly more feminine touches. That makes “chapstick lesbian” and “soft butch” quite similar—and the main difference between them lies in gender expression. For example:
- A “soft butch” lesbian might look more traditionally “masc” with just a couple of androgynous touches, like a piece of jewelry or painted nails.
- On the flipside, a “chapstick lesbian” might blend masculine and feminine elements in their style a little more.
- There is also the term “soft femme,” which is a queer identity characterized by traditionally feminine traits and presentation, while also embracing vulnerability and emotionality.

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Chapstick Lesbian Examples

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Chapstick lesbians don’t conform to an entirely masculine or feminine style. As mentioned above, the character of Ellen Morgan from Ellen—as well as the real-life Ellen DeGeneres—are both excellent examples of a chapstick lesbian. Other real-life examples include comedian Tig Notaro, tennis player Martina Navratilova, and Ilene Chaiken, creator of The L Word.
- In terms of fictional characters, there’s The West Wing’s Annabeth Schott, plus Finley and Sophie from The L Word.
- Josie—played by Ayo Edebiri—from Bottoms could also be described as a subtle chapstick lesbian.

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More Lesbian Terminology

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While you’re here, why not get acquainted with other popular terms within the lesbian community? Here’s a list of lesbian terminology related to gender expression, personality archetypes, and other common expressions that you’ll probably come across sooner or later. Take a look!
- High femme - A style of extremely feminine gender expression—typically among lesbians and the queer community.
- Stem - A term for a Black or Latinx lesbian whose gender expression is a blend of masculine and feminine elements
- WLW - An acronym for “Woman-Loving Woman” (a general term for women attracted to other women).
- Sapphic - An inclusive term for any woman who is attracted to women or in a relationship with a woman, regardless of their sexual orientation.
- Golden retriever lesbian - A term for a personality archetype in the lesbian community; golden retriever lesbians are outgoing, super friendly, and affectionate.
- Black cat lesbian - Another personality archetype, contrasting the “golden retriever lesbian.” Black cat lesbians are independent, a little aloof, and introverted.
- U-Haul lesbian - A stereotype of lesbian relationships; U-Haul lesbians tend to push their relationships along fast and move in together after only a short time dating.
- Celesbian - A portmanteau of “celebrity” and “lesbian.” This is a term for celebrities who publicly identify as lesbians.