Am I Lesbian or Bisexual?

Take this quiz to find your attraction!

Listen up, ladies! Lesbians and bisexuals are sister stripes on the pride flag, and while there's a lot of overlap, they're also their own identities. Wondering which one you are? We're here to help you find out!

Just answer a few simple questions, and we'll tell you if you're the L or the B in LGBT+!

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Questions Overview

1. When you close your eyes and imagine your perfect partner, they're...
  1. Male.
  2. Female.
  3. I don't care.
  4. Neither, or some other gender.
2. When you see a romantic movie, you'd rather watch one with...
  1. A lesbian couple.
  2. A gay couple.
  3. A straight couple.
  4. A poly couple.
  5. I don't like romantic movies.
3. Which kind of woman do you generally prefer?
  1. Feminine women.
  2. Masculine women.
  3. Women who are both femme and masc.
  4. I'm not attracted to women.
  5. I don't care! Or something else.
4. Generally, you feel most relaxed and yourself around...
  1. Women
  2. Men
  3. Both
  4. Another gender
  5. Neither
5. Be so for real: How do you generally feel about men?
  1. I'd ditch all of them if I could.
  2. They're a necessary evil.
  3. They're alright. Not as good as girls, though.
  4. Men are fab! Love men.
6. When you think about dating a man, how do you feel?
  1. Exhausted. Like it's a chore I have to do.
  2. Meh. If he's the right guy, then sure, but I won't hold my breath.
  3. Good! Dating men is exciting!
7. Men are best when they're...
  1. Fictional
  2. Gay
  3. Platonic friends
  4. Romantic
  5. Far away from me
  6. Bisexual
8. Do you ever find yourself trying to "prove" your attraction to men, even to yourself?
  1. Yes, all the time. Like I'm trying to convince myself...
  2. Sometimes, but only with certain men.
  3. Not really. I don't feel the need to prove anything.
9. How do you feel about having kids?
  1. I want to have kids of my own.
  2. I want to have kids, but I'd adopt, foster, get IVF, or something similar.
  3. I don't really want kids.
  4. I don't know!
10. Would you be comfortable being "the man" in a relationship?
  1. Totally. That'd be natural!
  2. I'd give it a try, but it's not my first choice.
  3. Not really. I need someone else to fill that role.
  4. I don't know, or I don't care.
11. Can we ask why you're taking this quiz?
  1. I want to be sure I'm not attracted to men.
  2. I want to keep my mind open to being bisexual, or confirm it.
  3. I'm genuinely a bit confused and want a second opinion!
  4. Just for fun!

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What's the difference between lesbian and bisexual?

Lesbians and bisexuals are like peas in a pod, and the LGBT+ community wouldn't be the same without them! While they share some overlap, they're two distinct identities, and it's important to tell them apart, which is why we talked to LGBT+ experts to explain more:


  • Licensed social worker and LGBTQ+ identity expert Zoe Stoller says, "One way that you might know that you're bisexual is if you find yourself attracted to multiple genders. This could be men and women, men and non-binary people, all of the above, whatever that means to you."[1]
  • LGBTQIA+ activist and expert NV Gay says, "Being a lesbian does not necessarily mean that you're only attracted to cisgender women. Trans women are women, so therefore trans women being attracted to that would be obviously lesbian. You could be towards more femme-presenting non-binary individuals and still be a lesbian."[2]
  • Queer linguistics educator and cultural commentator Dean Modah tells us, "A chapstick lesbian is a gay woman who has a muted feminine sensibility. The term was coined as an alternative to lipstick lesbian for women who present in a feminine way but prefer casual clothes and chapstick over feminine clothes and makeup."[3]
  • Global sex educator Cath Hakanson says, "Another thing is to check in with yourself. Like, if you’re reading a romance novel about two women, do you feel drawn to it? When you fantasize, who are you imagining? That can sometimes help give clarity."[4]

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References

  1. ↑ Zoe Stoller. Licensed Social Worker and LGBTQ+ Identity Expert. Expert Interview
  2. ↑ NV Gay. LGBTQIA+ Activist and Educator. Expert Interview
  3. ↑ Dean Modah. Queer Linguistics Educator and Cultural Commentator. Expert Interview
  4. ↑ Cath Hakanson. Global Sex Educator. Expert Interview