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David Chambers

Dating and Relationship Coach

David Chambers is a men’s dating, relationship, and intimacy coach based in London, England. With over 20 years of experience, David is the founder of The Authentic Man, emphasizing authenticity, self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and breaking down your personal barriers in order to build deep and meaningful relationships. In addition to 1:1 coaching, David has also created online courses including Men’s Dating Accelerator and Being an Authentic Masculine Man. He is also the host of The Authentic Man podcast, aimed at men seeking a better connection with themselves, their feelings, and understanding how to create beautiful relationships.

Education

  • BSc Computer Science

Professional Achievements

  • Featured in GQ, Mr. Porter, Cosmopolitan, International Press, and BBC Radio London

Certifications & Organizations

  • Certified AOMT Tantra Practitioner
  • Accredited Diploma in Transformational Coaching from Animas
  • Certified Breathwork Healer From breathOnIt
  • Resilient Heart™: Trauma-Sensitive HeartMath Certification

Favorite Piece of Advice

Everybody has fear. Everybody you meet or talk to has fears. So remember, when you are judging their behaviour as cruel or evil, maybe they are just trying to protect themselves from experiencing what they fear.

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What are questions guys love to be asked?
What do you really enjoy doing that you don't always find the time to do?
What’s the most fun you’ve had in the last few months?
What’s something people often misunderstand about you?
Who’s someone you really admire and why?
If you could invite anyone in the world to dinner, who would it be?
What are the best dating apps for men in your experience
Hinge. My clients are getting the best results here in terms of people who actually want to go on dates and want to get into relationships.
Is expecting a text once an hour bad?
I do have thoughts on this. If you were one of my clients, the first thing I’d ask you is, “Why do you feel like you need to hear from them every hour? What do you feel, or what do you start to think is wrong? What are the thoughts you have about them or the relationship? Finally, maybe most important, what thoughts do you start having about yourself?”

So, first off, I’d encourage you to really consider those questions and know why you expect this. Maybe try journaling, and notice the emotions and feelings that you're having, or the somatic experience.

Then, I’d encourage you to have a conversation with your significant other. Maybe ask them, what level of communication would feel like too much for them as well?

Let’s say your partner expected communication every 15 minutes. How would you start to feel? Would that be too much? Try and get into a state of empathy, and understand what it might be like for your partner, if they wanted more communication than you’d be willing to give. Finally, chat with them about what is realistic for each of you to get on the same page. Maybe they can guarantee a message every eight hours, for instance, and you can get to a place you’re both happy about. If you’re still feeling anxious about communication levels, I’d encourage you to learn some tools around self-soothing.
How do you go in for a kiss?
First off, I'll just say that kissing is so subjective. However, I think, overly fast, jerky movements and vigorous thrusting of the tongues are things to avoid. So, my first piece of advice would be to just slow down. Try to not eat strong smelling foods if you know you’ll be kissing someone. Also, be mindful of angles. Sometimes people come into a really strange angle to kiss someone and surprise kissing people, actually, you know, especially for the first time can, you know, if it's and that kind of comes into the school of like fast movements. Finally, coming in slowly so that the other person has proper time to prepare and understand that you’re hoping to kiss them will help you. It will show that you’re attuned to the other person and increase that connection.
How do you kiss passionately?
First off, I'll just say that kissing is so subjective. However, I think, overly fast, jerky movements and vigorous thrusting of the tongues are things to avoid. So, my first piece of advice would be to just slow down. Try to not eat strong smelling foods if you know you’ll be kissing someone. Also, be mindful of angles. Sometimes people come into a really strange angle to kiss someone and surprise kissing people, actually, you know, especially for the first time can, you know, if it's and that kind of comes into the school of like fast movements. Finally, coming in slowly so that the other person has proper time to prepare and understand that you’re hoping to kiss them will help you. It will show that you’re attuned to the other person and increase that connection.
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