How to Attract an Aquarius Man

Co-authored by Stina Garbis and Aly Rusciano

Last Updated: October 10, 2025 Fact Checked

Fun, light-hearted, and creative? The Aquarius man you have a crush on is one awesome and social guy. You want him to notice you, but how can you attract him without looking like you’re trying too hard? Keep reading because we’ve got all the tips and tricks you’ll need to attract an Aquarius man.

How to Woo an Aquarius Man

Aquarius men need plenty of alone time, so give him some space and show him you have your own independent life, too. Let him see your creative side and keep things fun, lighthearted, and spontaneous to keep his interest. Above all, be yourself to appeal to his eccentric, Aquarian nature.

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Give him space.

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Aquarians need a partner who understands their need for alone time. He needs space to reflect on his past, present, and future. Someone who values his moments of solidarity will immediately attract him, so take a step back every once and a while to think.^{[1]
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- Alone time doesn’t mean he’ll disappear forever! He’ll be back before you know it, revived and ready for the day.
- This is also a great opportunity for you to show him your independence by doing activities without him.

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Be independent.

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Aquarians are drawn to those who march to the beat of their own drum. Stand out from the crowd and grab his attention by just being you! He'll be captivated by your radiant personality and want to get to know you.
- Show that you have your own opinions, and let your voice be heard. Speak up during work meetings, or raise your hand during class.
- Wear clothes that you like, even if they’re not trendy, to showcase your unique style.

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Get creative.

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An Aquarius is attracted to those who think outside the box. Attract him with your originality by casually showing him something you’ve made or by uniquely solving a problem. This is an excellent way to show off your imagination and smarts.
- Post a picture of your latest creative project on social media. Let him be amazed by your creativity!
- Calm an argument between friends when he’s around with an approach no one else has thought of.

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Keep things light-hearted and fun.

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Sharing your feelings can make an Aquarius pretty uncomfortable. Aquarians have a hard time expressing their emotions, especially in group settings. When attracting an Aquarius man, stay away from personal and emotional conversations. He wants to have fun with you, not reveal his deepest and darkest secrets.
- Ask him questions about his favorite hobbies, job, or day-to-day life like, “What do you like to do in your free time?” and, “Where’d you go for lunch?”

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Be a good friend to him.

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An Aquarius man is most comfortable around his friends, so be one of his buds. When building a relationship, focus on being a friend to him first. Be there for him when he needs you most, text him funny pictures, and have fun with him. Soon enough, he’ll get comfortable with you and ask you to hang out one-on-one.
- Start a friendship with him as you would with any other person. He’s more than just a friend to you, but he doesn’t need to know that just yet!
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Text him randomly.

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An Aquarius man is anything but strategic. He functions on jolts of inspiration and admires those who do too, so get him inspired with random texts throughout the day. The messages don’t have to be calculated, especially since he won’t think too hard about texting you. Let him know what’s on your mind in a cool and casual way. Bonus points if you tell him a joke or fun fact!^{[2]
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- “You’re never going to believe the joke I just heard🤣”
- “Did you know that snakes can predict earthquakes? Not something I thought I’d learn today😂”

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Talk to his friends.

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Attract an Aquarius man’s friends to attract him. An Aquarius holds their friends close to their hearts, so get to know his friends and let them get to know you. Take every opportunity to go out with his friend group—where they go, you go.^{[3]
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- Who knows? Maybe his friends will start telling him just how awesome you are.

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Play it cool.

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A good mystery is more appealing to an Aquarius than being upfront. Rather than telling him how you feel, let him figure things out and catch feelings for you. He’ll be more attracted to you if he approaches you first. When he’s around, play it cool by talking to him with confidence, as if your heart’s not beating out your chest.
- Not showing him any interest can make him more interested.
- He’ll be attracted to you and your life just by you doing you.

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Challenge him.

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An Aquarius man loves a good chase, so make him want you. Aquarians don’t want an easy relationship—they want to be kept on their toes! Show him your independence, intelligence, and creativity by challenging him in social settings. This will set you apart from the rest.^{[4]
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- Be busy with your life. You’re not 100% available 24/7, so make him think he has to earn your affection.
- Share your opinions even if they go against his. Give him a reason to start a debate so you can show off how smart you are.
- Is he into sports? Find out his favorite team and root for the revival. This is also a great way to spend time with him.

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Let him take the reigns in the relationship.

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An Aquarius man is drawn to someone who’s laid back. He likes to be in control, so give him the chance to show it. Try letting him pick the date location or telling him he can order for you at a restaurant. This is a great way to show him your carefree nature, which he’s sure to find attractive.
- Try to worry less when you’re around him. Sit back and let the stress melt away.

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Be yourself.

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The best way you can get him to notice you is by being yourself. Your smile and energy are contagious, and he’s blind if he doesn’t notice just how amazing you are.

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WikiNarwhalDancer168

Hi all, I'm a 26F and I have a big crush on this guy, so naturally I tried to find out his sign as quickly as possible, lol. He's an Aquarius! I have never dated an Aquarius before and am curious about what it's like. Give me th good, the bad, and the ugly please!