40+ Sweet & Flirty Texts to Make Him Lose His Mind

So, you’re trying to impress the guy you like, or maybe you’re already dating him and just trying to spice things up! Either way, you want him to think about you, chase you, and want you badly…especially because you’re thinking about him 24/7. Thankfully, a quick and flirty text can make him lose his mind with missing you, wanting you, and adoring you. We’ve put together the ultimate list of the best messages to send him and keep him swooning, plus flirting tips, all with the help of communication and relationship experts. Read on!

Top Texts to Drive A Man Wild

Communication therapist Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP suggests sending a thoughtful or playful text to make him curious and spark an interesting conversation, which subtly shows him that you’re interested without coming on too strong. Here are some light and fun texts to get him thinking about you:

Good morning, handsome ❤️
Hey, handsome. I can’t get you off my mind 💭🤍
That blue shirt you wore looked so good with your eyes 😍
What shows are you watching these days? 😊
What’s on your top travel list? I need ideas! 🏝️

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Cute Texts to Make Him Think About You

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Make your man smile with a sweet and cutesy text. A cute text can really perk up someone’s mood, and this goes for the guy in your life, too! By sending him a sweet text about how much you like him or something that reminds you of him, you’ll show him just how much you’re thinking about him…and probably make him think about you more frequently, too.^{[1]
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- I had the best time with you last night 😊
- How are you smart, strong, and sexy?? Leave something for the rest of us!
- I can’t stop smiling. Guess someone makes me really happy 🥰
- Want to play hooky tomorrow? I’m lovesick for you 🤒😉
- Just the THOUGHT of you gives me butterflies!! 🦋🦋🦋
- What I wouldn’t give to be in your arms… 🫂💋
- They say I’m crazy, but I’m only crazy about you 🤪
- You must be fictional. No one as good-looking as you can be real 🙄
- This meme is totally you 😂
Meet the wikiHow Experts

Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP is a communication therapist who specializes in interpersonal relationships.

Imad Jbara is a dating coach who serves over 100 clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills.

Julia McCurley is a certified professional matchmaker and relationship coach who’s spent more than 12 years creating happy couples and helping singles on their journey to find (and keep) love.

Kristina Mirgorodskaya is a dating coach and the Marketing Director of Amiccio, a social app that helps singles make new connections.

John Keegan is a dating and relationships coach with over 15 years of experience in helping people find and maintain romantic relationships.

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Flirty Texts to Make Him Think About You

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Live in his mind rent-free with a flirtatiously “innocent” text. If you want to amp up the heat a little bit without going too far, send a message that has “a flirtatious, light, and playful vibe,” says dating coach John Keegan.^{[2]
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Expert Interview} Tenzer recommends adding emojis to your text, as they can “speak volumes without saying a word.” Some flirty emojis to use include 😘, 😍, and 🥰.^{[3]
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Expert Interview} These subtly flirty texts can be innocent on the surface while also signaling that you want to take things to the next level…a little tease never hurt anybody, and it’ll definitely keep you on his mind!^{[4]
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- I can’t stop thinking about this guy! Maybe you know him…?
- I can’t get you off my mind 🤯
- That blue shirt you wore on your trip to Cabo looked so good with your eyes.^{[5]
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- I’m already blushing, and the date hasn’t even started yet!
- I dreamed about you last night 💭🤍
- What do you think we’d be doing right now if we were together?
- Put on your best cologne because I’m coming over 😜
- Want to come over and see my new outfit?
- Hey there, hot stuff 😘
- Do you make everyone melt with that smile of yours?
- Someone said they saw me with the sexiest man alive yesterday…
- Looking for more flirty texts? Read our forum on the best ideas for flirty texts for him.

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Spicy Texts to Make Him Think About You

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Spice things up with a seductive text message for him. If you really want to drive him crazy, a spicy text is the most foolproof way to do that! You can “say something flirty and slightly suggestive, like you just got out of the shower and were thinking about him,” says McCurley.^{[6]
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Expert Interview} Or, try one of these juicy text examples:
- I have a surprise for you later 😏
- If you come by tonight, I promise to make it worth it 🔥
- I made your favorite meal—guess what’s for dessert 🤤
- Have any plans later? I’d love to Netflix and chill 👀
- How about we play a game of Truth or Dare? 😈
- There’s something special waiting for you at home 😉
- I think it’s time for our lips to schedule an in-person meeting 😘
- I’m just lying in bed, and I can’t stop thinking about you ❤️
- Just don’t work too hard—you’ll need some energy for later 😏🔥

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Heartfelt Texts to Make Him Think About You

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Express your affections with a genuine and romantic text. If you want to leave a lasting impression with something more heartfelt and sincere, these texts will do just that! Tenzer suggests complimenting your guy with a “Hey, handsome” text or commenting on his latest social media post to flirtatiously show your interest. Compliments are a great way to get a guy to think about you because “everyone loves to feel good about themselves and hear positive feedback from others,” says Tenzer.^{[7]
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Expert Interview} “Compliment him on his humor, looks,” or another positive attribute, adds dating expert Kristina Mirgorodskaya.^{[8]
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Expert Interview} Or try one of these heartfelt texts:
- You’ve got to check this out! We talked about this yesterday!
- I miss you so much! Let’s see each other soon!
- I must be the luckiest person in the world to have you 🍀❤️
- You’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me.
- I can’t wait for tonight! 🤗
- Your favorite song just came on. I miss you 🎵😗
- You’re truly incredible. You know that?
- You can make any day better 😊
- No one makes me laugh the way you do!
- I’m counting down the days until I see you again 📅🩷
- I know I can always count on you 💞

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Intriguing Texts to Make Him Think About You

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Ask him an interesting question to spark his curiosity. “When you’re first trying to catch a guy’s attention,” explains Tenzer, “less is often more.” She suggests sending a text that “keeps it light and lets curiosity do the work.” Tenzer says, “A thoughtful or playful text shows him you’re thinking about him without laying all your cards on the table,” which helps “you spark his interest, leave room for conversation, [get] him to wonder, and create space for things to naturally unfold.” Her favorite way to do this is to ask a question that sparks a conversation, such as:^{[9]
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- What’s your go-to place for Italian? I’m craving it!^{[10]
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- What shows are you watching these days? I need new material.^{[11]
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- What’s on your top travel list? I’m making mine and need ideas.^{[12]
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- The weather’s supposed to be nice this weekend! Do you have any fun plans?^{[13]
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- Wow, have you seen that new TV show? It’s insane! Check it out!^{[14]
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- I’m reading this book/listening to this podcast. What do you think about…?^{[15]
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- Tenzer explains that “coming on too strong can feel overwhelming or give off the wrong impression, but staying too distant might mean he never even notices your interest.” Striking a balance by being subtle but interesting is the sweet spot to get him thinking about you.^{[16]
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“Good Morning” Texts to Make Him Think About You

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Wake him up with a sweet and playful “good morning” text. If he’s not already thinking about you first thing in the morning, he will be now! “Little things [like ‘good morning’ messages] can create a feeling of cuteness, love, playfulness, or silliness,” explains Keegan, so they’re a good way to start the day and better cement your connection with this guy.^{[17]
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Expert Interview} Tenzer adds that “a sweet good morning (or goodnight) text keeps things warm without being overbearing.”^{[18]
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Expert Interview} Here are some sweet and funny “good morning” texts to try out:^{[19]
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- Good morning, handsome ❤️
- I woke up smiling because I was dreaming about you! 😄
- Good morning! How’s your day going so far? ☀️😊
- Hope your morning coffee is as hot as you! ☕🥵
- I miss you…morning breath and all! 😆
- Today’s forecast: 100% chance of me falling head over heels for you 🌈♥️
- Morning, sexy! Wanna put me on today’s to-do list? 😏✅

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“Good Night” Texts to Make Him Think About You

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Send him off to dreamland with a flirty or romantic message. Nighttime can be sweet or spicy—your choice! You can send your crush a spicy text to make sure he’s thinking of you as you fall asleep, or you can give your boyfriend the warm and fuzzies with a heartfelt nighttime message. Mirgorodskaya says if you’ve just been on a date with this guy, text him good night and “mention a nice moment on the date so that you’re finishing the night well and cementing a memory of each other.”^{[20]
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Expert Interview} Here are some scripted “good night” text examples:
- Off to bed! See you in my dreams! 💋
- I was about to say good night, but I can’t fall asleep. I can’t stop thinking about this amazing guy I met!!
- Can’t stop imagining what it would be like if you were here in bed with me right now 😮‍💨
- I’d say sweet dreams, but I know you’ll be dreaming of me 💭☺️
- Good night, my love. I wish I could be there to hold you 🥹🫂
- Night! Can’t wait to talk to you tomorrow!
- My bed feels wayyyy too empty without you 🥺😞

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Expert Advice for Flirting with a Guy Over Text

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Bring up a shared experience or something that you have in common. This can be a great conversation starter or a good way to revive a conversation that’s getting dry. McCurley suggests to “text [about] something that you both have in common, like a show you both like. Ask him if he’s seen the latest episode!”^{[21]
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Expert Interview} You can also try to “reconnect over something from a previous conversation,” adds Keegan, “whether that was in person or something you were texting about before.”^{[22]
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- For example, if you laughed over a funny moment together the last time you saw him, say something like, “Omg, I was just thinking about when we ______ last week. I can’t get over how funny that was!”
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Give him a sweet but genuine compliment. “Complimenting him is a good way to renew the sparks,” says McCurley. For example, “‘You have such a great sense of humor…I miss your jokes.’”^{[23]
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Expert Interview} Dating coach Imad Jbara agrees that “admiration is the best way to compliment a guy through text. Things like, for instance, ‘You’re so strong’ or…‘I like how smart you are,’ ‘I love the fact that you’re able to take initiative,’ ‘I like that you’re a leader.’”^{[24]
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Match the energy of his responses without going overboard. “Usually, it’s better not to show too much interest in a guy [initially],” says Mirgorodskaya. “Try to text in the same way that he’s texting in order to see if he’s interested in you.”^{[25]
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Expert Interview} Jbara advises that, “if he’s flirting with you, you respond with flirty messages. Just don’t come off as too [eager].”^{[26]
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- However, this doesn’t mean to only send dry, dismissive texts. He’ll probably think that you’re not interested and stop texting you altogether!
- Instead, “if you’re texting him, and he’s texting you back and forth, give him something to work with” so that he has an easy way to respond to you and keep the convo alive, says Jbara.^{[27]
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Best ideas for flirty texts for him

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Try these flirty texts out to show a guy that you're into him:

Good morning! Just wanted to say you were on my mind when I woke up :)
I had a dream about you last night. Can you guess what it was about?
I'm still smiling thinking about hanging out with you last night 😉
Have I ever told you how handsome you were?
I can't wait to see you again
My heart skips a beat every time I see a notification from you.
I wish I could give you a good night kiss.

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Be yourself when you text the guy you like—show off that beautiful personality!

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Don’t stress if he doesn’t text you back right away. He may be busy or is trying to build anticipation. Give it a few hours (or even a day) before texting him again.

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