How to Tell if a Guy Views You as Someone Special

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27 signs that he might be falling for you
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If you’ve recently started dating a guy, it's common to wonder if he thinks the relationship is casual or serious. We interviewed leadership and relationship coach Zachary Pontrello to find out how to tell if you’re special to him, and we'll share both the subtle and obvious signs. Read on to solve the mystery and find out what he really thinks, in case he doesn't say it directly.

Things You Should Know

  • If a guy thinks you’re special, he’ll want to know everything about you. He’ll ask you open-ended questions and remember all the details.
  • He’ll invite you to events, talk about you to his friends, and call or text you to stay in touch when you’re apart.
  • He’ll value your opinion, respect you, and ask you for advice. He'll support you, be there for you, and help you when you need it.
1

He prioritizes spending time with you.

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  1. He’ll choose you over anyone else.
    You can be assured he'll dedicate his free time to you. If he loves spending time with you and prioritizes you over his other interests, he sees you as a special person in his life.[1]
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2

He invites you to events.

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  1. You'll be his plus-one for outings and holidays.
    If you’re special to him, you’re the only person he’d even think to ask. It doesn’t matter where you are or what you’re doing as long as you’re together.[2]
    • However, while being including in his life events is a good sign, make sure he's showing you his commitment in other ways as well (e.g., him making time for and prioritizing you).
    • Reader Poll: We asked 663 wikiHow readers and only 14% thought that the strongest sign of a guy liking you is him inviting you into his plans. [Take Poll]
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He values your opinion.

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  1. He'll ask for your advice on the big and the small things.
    If he has a problem, he’ll ask you how to solve it. If he needs movie recommendations, he’ll come to you. He’ll make you feel valued by listening to and appreciating your thoughts.[3]
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He shares his feelings with you.

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  1. He won’t be afraid to show his true emotions.
    Whether they’re good or bad, your guy will lean on you for emotional support. He trusts you with his innermost thoughts and feels safe being vulnerable with you.[4]
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He supports you during hard times.

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  1. He’ll do whatever he can to make your life easier.
    Whether that’s letting you vent about your problems or offering advice, he wants to make sure you’re safe, happy, and cared for.[5]
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He surprises you.

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  1. He keeps you on your toes with unexpected gifts or dates.
    When he sees you as someone special, he’ll want to show you how he feels. He may surprise you with your favorite coffee or write you a love letter just to show you he cares. He wants you to see how much he appreciates having you in his life.[6]
7

He talks about your future together.

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  1. He'll say “we” instead of “I” when discussing future plans.
    He includes you in upcoming events without even having to ask because, in his mind, he’s already envisioning you by his side. He might even bring up marriage and children. Regardless, he’s definitely in it for the long run.[7]
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He shows genuine interest in your life.

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  1. What’s important to you is important to him.
    He wants to know all your likes and dislikes, and he’ll ask about that promotion he knows you’re hoping to get. He’s happy when you’re happy, and he’ll cheer you on in your achievements.[8]
    • Leadership and relationship coach Zachary Pontrello told us "spend a little bit of time every day together, practicing engaged conversation....completely focus on each other...just listening and being with each other" is a great way to build an emotional connection.[9]
9

He tells his friends about you.

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  1. His friends know that you're together.
    When you meet his friends for the first time, they may ask you about things you don’t expect, like how you like your new apartment or job. This is because your guy just can’t stop talking about you and how much he likes you. His friends probably know everything about you, and his family might, too. When you’re special to him, he’ll want you to get to know all the other important people in his life.[10]
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10

He treats you with respect.

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  1. He values you as a person and understands your boundaries.
    You know that you can express yourself honestly when you’re with him. He might want to spend all his time with you, but he understands you’re your own person and you need your space. When he respects you and your time, he wants to keep you in his life.[11]
11

He communicates openly.

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  1. He won’t shut down when things get difficult.
    When you have a conflict, he’s willing to talk it out. He’ll listen to your perspective and try to understand where you’re coming from, and he knows you’ll do the same for him. He’s willing to do the work to keep you in his life.[12]
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He goes out of his way for you.

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  1. He’ll be there for you, and he won’t complain.
    He wants you to feel safe and valued. He may come over late at night just because you heard a strange noise or he’ll drive across town so you don’t have to walk home at night. No favor will be too big when you’re special to him.[13]
13

He learns your love language.

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  1. He wants to appreciate you in a way you understand.
    Don’t be surprised if he adjusts the way he shows his affection. Depending on your love language, he may spend more quality time with you or perform small acts of service. He could show you physical affection or verbally tell you how much you mean to him. Or, he may shower you with gifts to show he cares. He wants you to understand just how much you mean to him.[14]
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You brighten his day.

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  1. When you’re happy, he’s happy.
    He loves to receive compliments from you, and nothing makes him feel better than seeing your smile. He may go out of his way to do things he knows make you happy, even if they’re not something he’d normally enjoy. Seeing you happy is worth it.[15]
15

He stays in touch.

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  1. You won’t have to wonder if he’s going to call you.
    When you’re special to him, he’s not going to play games. He’ll be direct and show you he wants to be with you. He’ll call or text you and make plans to see you again soon.
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He asks you open-ended questions.

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  1. He makes an effort to get to know you.
    By asking questions and actively listening to your answers, he’s letting you know he wants to understand you on a deeper level. He wants to know what makes you you. He already thinks you’re special, and now he wants to know all your unique traits.[16]
17

He gets nervous around you.

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  1. He may act awkward when he’s with you.
    He might get shy or maybe he’ll talk too much. If he acts differently around you than with other people, this shows he cares what you think. He’s so focused on making a good impression that he just gets too nervous to focus.
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He makes a lot of eye contact.

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  1. When he’s attracted to you, he’ll want to look at you.
    You may find he makes eye contact with you more often than others, and that he holds your gaze for a longer period of time. If you catch him stealing glances at you, know he’s interested in you.[18]
19

He keeps the conversation going.

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  1. Your guy will constantly look for an excuse to chat with you.
    He’ll quickly find a new topic when there’s a lull in a conversation, or suggest another activity when your time together is about to end. He wants to spend time with you, and he’ll find any excuse to talk to you.
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He tells you good news before anyone else.

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  1. He wants to share his excitement with you.
    When he receives good news, you’ll be the first one to know. He knows you understand what’s important to him and will always support him in his endeavors.[19]
21

He touches you for no reason.

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  1. You’ll know a guy is into you if he wants to be physically close to you.
    He may wrap his arm around you or playfully hit you on the arm. You may notice he stands closer to you than anyone else. If it seems like he can’t keep his hands off of you, he probably thinks you’re pretty special.
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He offers to help you.

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  1. He’s there when you need him.
    He’ll often help you with small tasks throughout the day, like cooking and cleaning. If there’s something you can’t do on your own, he’ll be the first in line to assist you. When you’re special to him, he wants you to know you can always rely on him. [20]
23

He seems jealous of other guys.

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  1. You might notice he gets tense when you mention other guys.
    Even if your feelings for the other men are purely platonic, he won’t want you to talk about them. Though he may not say it aloud, he wants to keep you all to himself.
    • Remember, there’s a difference between healthy jealousy and being controlling. Your partner should never make you feel like you can’t see your friends or that you should only ever be with them. Practice creating healthy boundaries by being vulnerable and communicating your concerns to your partner.
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He doesn’t talk about other love interests.

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  1. For him, there’s no one but you.
    If you’re unsure of your guy’s feelings toward you, ask him about his past relationships. He might tense up and try to evade the question. He also won’t talk about any other potential partners because you’re the only one he’s interested in.[21]
25

He buys you gifts.

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  1. He’ll want to make you feel special by getting you a little something.
    He’ll often bring you gifts just because he was thinking of you. You’re on his mind even when you’re not around, showing just how special you are in his eyes.
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He misses you when you’re apart.

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  1. He thinks of you when you’re not with him.
    He’ll probably text or call you just to check in and see how you’re doing. He understands that having time apart is healthy, but you can bet he’s counting the hours until he can see you again.[22]
27

He loves your weird side.

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  1. You can be yourself around him.
    You’re not afraid to show him your dorky interests because you know he’ll find them endearing. He makes you feel comfortable, and you know you’ll never be embarrassed to show him your true self.[24]
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This article was co-authored by Zach Pontrello and by wikiHow staff writer, Raven Minyard, BA. Zach Pontrello is an Embodied Leadership & Relationship Coach and the Founder of One Thought Growth & Sovereign Man Academy. His expertise lies in helping people build better relationships with themselves and with their partners, focusing on communication and honesty. Zach received his degree from John Carroll University. This article has been viewed 22,024 times.
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