170 Funny & Fascinating Questions to Ask Your Tinder Match

So, you’ve matched with someone on Tinder—and they look really cool! Now, what kind of questions can you ask to catch their attention and keep the conversation flowing? If you’re struggling to think of topics, we’ve got you covered. From playful icebreakers to deeply personal questions and flirty queries that signal your interest, read on for a comprehensive list of questions to ask on Tinder, with tips from professional matchmakers and dating coaches.

The Best Questions to Ask on Tinder

Matchmaker and dating coach Lauren Sanders recommends asking fun and meaningful questions, like the first time they fell in love, their favorite subject in school, or their favorite place to travel. Other good questions include:

If you could travel in time, where and when would you go?
What is the one hobby you’re most dedicated to?
What’s one word your friends would use to describe you?
Do you believe in destiny?
What is the weirdest date you’ve ever had?

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Flirty Questions to Ask on Tinder

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Use flirty questions to see if your Tinder match likes you back. Start peppering in a few flirty questions after a couple of exchanges. If you like your Tinder match and feel like there could be something between you, flirting is a great way to communicate your feelings and gauge theirs based on their response.^{[1]
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- How on earth are you still single?
- What is it about you I’m so drawn to?
- Do you like to dance?
- What do you think is your sexiest feature?
- Want to hear a secret?
- What's the first thing you noticed about my profile?
- If I asked you out, would you say yes?
- Do you prefer to make the first move?
- Would you prefer cuddling up or having a make-out session?
- What's your go-to dance move?
- Which flirty questions do you like best? Discuss your preferences in our “What are some flirty questions to ask a guy?” or “What are some flirty questions I can ask a girl?” forums.
Meet the wikiHow Experts

Lauren Sanders is a professional matchmaker, dating coach, and the founder of Dating for the Soul. She has over 4 years of experience specializing in helping singles find love.

Shana Tibi is a certified professional matchmaker, date and relationship coach, and the founder of Curated Connections, a matchmaking service for single professionals.

Kristina Mirgorodskaya is a dating coach and the marketing director of Amiccio, a New York City social app that helps singles make new connections. She has over 4 years of experience.

Damona Hoffman is a celebrity dating coach, on-air personality, and author with over 15 years of experience. She’s consulted for numerous dating apps, including Match, Bumble, and OkCupid.

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Playful Questions to Ask on Tinder

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Catch your match’s attention and break the ice with a playful question. When reaching out to someone on Tinder for the first time (or during the first few interactions), generic questions like “What’s up?” don’t always inspire as much interest. Instead, ask your Tinder crush a few playful questions designed to make them smile and get them thinking!^{[2]
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- If you could travel in time, when and where would you go?
- If you were to make a movie based on your life, what would you call it?
- Quick! Describe yourself in just 5 words.
- What would you buy if you won the lottery?
- What’s the weirdest thing you carry in your bag?
- What pet would you get if you could have any animal?
- Hot take: Were Ross and Rachel on a break?
- Have you ever laughed so hard that you spilled your drink on someone?
- What are your most embarrassing quirks?
- What’s the most exciting thing you can say about yourself in 60 seconds?
- What is your silliest turn-off?

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Funny Questions to Ask on Tinder

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Make them laugh with a silly question. Many people say they want a partner who has a good sense of humor, so show them what a comedian you are by asking them some funny questions. This is a great way to break the ice and see if your senses of humor are compatible.^{[3]
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- How long do you think you’d survive in a zombie apocalypse?
- What smell do you secretly like, despite the fact it doesn’t smell particularly good?
- Why do round pizzas come in square boxes?
- What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever seen a stranger do in public?
- If dogs could talk, what’s one thing yours would say that would completely ruin your image?
- What meme describes you best?
- If you were to be banned from your local library, what would be the reason?
- If you could remove one color from the whole world, what would it be and why?
- Which species would be the rudest if all animals could talk?
- Do mermaids have live babies or lay eggs?
- What’s the most creative insult you can think of?
- What soap do you dislike the most and why?
- Reader Poll: We asked 3605 wikiHow readers and 49% of them agreed that their favorite way to break the ice is by asking funny or silly questions [Take Poll]. So, these wacky questions may just help you spark a convo with your Tinder crush!

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Questions About Entertainment

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Engage your Tinder match by bringing up movies, music, TV, and more. If you’re looking for fun, easy conversation starters, there’s always something noteworthy to talk about in entertainment and pop culture. Ask them about their favorite kinds of entertainment, from movies and games to books, and share your favorites too. You might find common ground!^{[4]
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- What TV show would you recommend I start right now?
- Which superhero should get their own movie next?
- Have you ever watched a movie that was better than the book?
- What movie can you watch over and over without getting tired of it?
- If you could only listen to one artist for the rest of your life, who would it be?
- What are your top five favorite movies?
- What book do you think everyone should read?
- Zombies are taking over the planet! Which 5 characters are on your survival team?
- How do you feel about podcasts?
- What’s the best video game you’ve ever played?

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Questions About Hobbies

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See what your Tinder match likes to do (and what you have in common). Lots of people have hobbies they’re super passionate about, so asking about them is an important part of getting to know your Tinder match. Learn more about the activities that bring them joy and all the different skills they’ve tried to pick up over the years.
- What is the one hobby you’re most dedicated to?
- What’s one hobby you’ve tried, but given up on?
- What activity brings a smile to your face when you’re feeling sad?
- How do you generally spend your weekends?
- What is your favorite sport?
- Do you prefer outdoor games or video games?
- Do you play any musical instrument?
- If today were your last day in this city, what activities would you do?
- How many languages can you speak?
- What are you passionate about?
- What’s your hidden talent?

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Questions About Food & Drinks

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Learn more about the foods they love (and hate) the most. You and your Tinder match can compare taste buds, eating habits, and all the different dishes each of you would love to try one day. You might even be able to make arrangements to meet up at a restaurant after some banter about your favorite foods!
- What toppings do you like on your pizza?
- What’s in your fridge right now?
- What’s your favorite food?
- Do you cook often?
- What’s one snack you’ll never say no to?
- Which food best describes your personality?
- What is your comfort food?
- What’s your drink of choice at a bar?
- If you could eat only one thing for a week, what would you choose?
- What does your favorite breakfast look like?

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Questions About Personal Details

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Dive a little deeper into their likes, dislikes, and personal opinions. After chatting for a little while, ask your Tinder match more about their life—from things they’re enthusiastic about to details about their personality, habits, and preferences.^{[5]
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- What's your Myers-Briggs type?
- What’s your astrology Sun sign?
- What’s the one compliment you get the most?
- What’s your favorite and least favorite household chore?
- What’s your favorite meme or GIF?
- Where do you go if you want to escape?
- What does your ideal night look like? Do you go out or are you at home with friends?
- What’s your guilty pleasure?
- What would you want to get on your birthday?
- Do you keep a diary?
- Do you like to sleep in on the weekends?
- Do you march to the beat of your own drum, or do you like going with the flow?
EXPERT TIP

Shana Tibi
Certified Professional Matchmaker
Shana Tibi is a Certified Professional Matchmaker, Date and Relationship Coach, and the Founder of Curated Connections, a matchmaking service for single professionals. Shana specializes in understanding core values and personal preferences to curate dates. She holds a BA in Peace Studies and Conflict Resolution from Prescott College and an MSW in Social Work from California State University, Hayward. She is an active member of the Global Love Institute where she earned her matchmaking certifications.

Shana Tibi
Certified Professional Matchmaker

Be specific when starting a conversation on a dating app. Ask about where they went to school, their profession, an activity they like, or a core value. Keep it lighthearted and fun in the beginning, but don’t make it look like a copy-and-paste message that you’re sending to everyone.

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Questions About Family

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Get to know them better by learning about their family. Sanders says asking your match about their upbringing and family can help you get to know them better.^{[6]
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Expert Interview} These questions can reveal a lot about their home life and relationships with their family. They might open up about how important their family is or let you know they don’t really talk to their family—but either way, you’d learn more about them and tell them about your family situation in return.
- Do you have any siblings?
- What’s the craziest prank you’ve played on a sibling?
- Does your family have any yearly traditions?
- What are your grandparents like?
- Are you more like your mom or your dad?
- Does your family have a silly nickname for you?
- Do you live by yourself?
- What’s the best advice your parents or guardians have ever given you?
- How many cousins do you have?
- What’s one word your friends would use to describe you?

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Questions About Their Best Memories

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Take them on a trip down memory lane and ask about their background. Bring up events from their childhood, grade-school days, their strongest memories of early adult life, and all the milestones under that umbrella. You can learn about what they were like as a kid, what kind of childhood they had, and how that informed the person they are now.
- What was your favorite grade in school?
- What was the best birthday you’ve ever had?
- If you could relive one day of your life again, which would it be?
- What was your most memorable job?
- Do you miss high school?
- What’s the silliest Halloween costume you’ve ever worn?
- So far in your life, what has been your favorite age?
- What's your most treasured memory?
- What’s your greatest accomplishment so far?
- What was the last time you did something for the first time? What was it?

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Deep Questions to Ask on Tinder

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Ask about their values and beliefs to get to know them on a deeper level. Once you’ve gotten to know each other enough that you’re comfortable confiding in one another, it might be a good time to ask them some deeper questions. These questions are designed to elicit a really thoughtful response, no matter what their thoughts are on the subject at hand!
- Do you believe in destiny?
- Do you believe in astrology? Why or why not?
- Are you good at keeping secrets?
- What quote inspired you most?
- For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
- What’s something that gives your life meaning?
- What's more important to you, work or hobbies?
- Do you like talking about politics?
- Where do you feel most at home?
- Is there anything you'd never do?
- If you could make one decision to change the world, what would you do?

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Weird Questions to Ask on Tinder

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Spring some wacky and unorthodox questions to entertain them. Dating expert Kristina Mirgorodskaya says to be creative with your questions and responses if you want to have an interesting conversation.^{[7]
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Expert Interview} Sometimes, the most entertaining and thought-provoking questions are the ones you never see coming! Ask your Tinder match a weird and creative question that gets them to think outside the box.
- Do you think humans will ever inhabit Mars?
- Do you believe in the Illuminati?
- Of everyone who’s ever lived, who would you want to have dinner with?
- What’s your favorite conspiracy theory?
- Have you ever done something illegal?
- Who do you think you were in a past life?
- If you were to go to prison, what would it be for?
- Have you ever done the Gangnam Style dance?
- Did you drink enough water today?
- Do you believe in ghosts?

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Questions About Travel

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Sharing travel stories can tell you a lot about one another. Whether they travel regularly, go on vacation once in a blue moon, or left the state for the first time to go to college, odds are both of you have at least a couple of travel stories to tell! Ask them about their traveling experiences thus far and where they’d like to go in the future.^{[8]
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- Have you ever traveled outside the country?
- How many different countries have you visited?
- What cultures would you like to experience?
- What’s the best vacation you’ve ever been on?
- Would you rather travel to the past or the future?
- Where’s the next place on your list to travel?
- What’s the most romantic travel destination you can think of?
- If you could travel the universe knowing you could never visit Earth again, would you?
- Do you prefer flying on airplanes or road trips?
- What’s one place you absolutely have to visit sometime in your life?
- What’s your favorite place on earth?

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Questions About Goals & Dreams

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Find out if you share any common goals for the future. Now that you know the kind of person your Tinder match is, why not find out what kind of person they want to be someday? Sanders recommends asking questions about their life goals and values to get to know them better.^{[9]
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Expert Interview} Ask questions about their ideal career, where they see themselves after a few years, and all the things they dream of doing in the future.
- What does success mean to you?
- What is your dream job?
- What’s something you’ve always wanted to do, but haven’t?
- What are the top 5 things on your bucket list?
- What does your dream house look like?
- What makes you the most nervous about the future?
- What’s your biggest goal right now?
- What’s something you’d like to be remembered for?
- What’s the most important thing your life is missing?
- Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

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This or That Questions

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Playing “This or That?” can help open up a conversation. Celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman recommends asking “This or that?” questions to get to know someone better. “Then,” she says, “You have a follow-up question to that initial question,” based on their response.^{[10]
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Expert Interview} Just ask a question with two options, phrased like a “This or that?” question, and see what they pick. Based on their answer, ask them to explain, comment on what your choice would be, or ask more rapid-fire questions!^{[11]
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- Early bird or night owl?
- Savory or sweet?
- Concert or Broadway show?
- Coffee or tea?
- Cats or dogs?
- Dine-in or delivery?
- Bath or shower?
- Cake or pie?
- Red or white wine?
- Kangaroo or platypus?
- Slippers or socks?
- You get a superpower! Flying or invisibility?

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Spicy Questions to Ask on Tinder

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Turn up the heat with spicy questions if you’re both ready for it. Spicy questions can cement your attraction to one another and take your connection to the next level, but not right away. Rather, save them until you’re both comfortable enough to ask (and answer) them. You could even ask, “Is it okay if I ask you a spicy question?” before sending the first one, just to make sure they’re on board.
- What’s your favorite way to be seduced by someone?
- What's the worst thing someone can do in bed?
- Do you prefer to make out with the lights on or off?
- What makes you feel sexy?
- What do you fantasize about?
- What’s the dirtiest thing someone has said to you?
- What’s your ideal one-night stand look like?
- Do you prefer being the big spoon or the little spoon?
- What do you find attractive in a person?
- Where do you like to be touched most?

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Questions About Relationships

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Get a sense of their needs and the kind of relationship they want. If you’re looking for a relationship on Tinder, the best way to do that is to ask your match about their idea of a relationship and what they look for in a partner. That way, you’ll know if your ideals, needs, and desires are compatible!^{[12]
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- What’s your idea of a perfect date?
- How much time do you think couples should spend apart?
- Do you prefer cuddling or kissing?
- What is the most important thing for you in a relationship?
- What's your love language?
- What's a green flag for you in a relationship?
- What’s the best romantic surprise you’ve ever had?
- Can you surrender to love, or does that idea scare you?
- What is the weirdest date you have ever had?
- What made you start using Tinder?