“Pick Me Girls” are girls who try to get validation and attention from guys, often by putting down other women. You’ve probably heard this term on social media before, but how can you tell if you are one?
If you’re trying to figure out the answer to this question, you’re in the right place! Just answer these questions, and we’ll let you know if you’ve got Pick Me Girl vibes (don’t worry, we all do from time to time!). Hit that “Start Quiz” button to get started!
Questions Overview
- Yup. Not gonna lie, I do this a lot!
- Maybe once or twice 🫣
- Nope, I’ve never done that!
- Yeah. But it’s true—I’m not like other girls!
- This is embarrassing, but I might have in the past 😬
- No. I am like other girls, and I’m proud!
- Yup, I do.
- Only sometimes.
- No! I talk about them proudly.
- Yeah. You gotta do what you gotta do!
- Once or twice, but I’m not proud of it.
- No, that’s mean! I wouldn’t do that.
- 0-4
- 5-7
- 8-10
- Yes, of course! That’s just a fact of dating.
- I try not to, but I do sometimes.
- No. There are enough guys for everyone!
- I’d blush, say thank you, and compliment him back!
- I’d say thanks then change the subject.
- I’d say other girls are awesome, and it’s okay to be like them!
- Very important.
- Kinda important.
- It’s nice to have, but it’s not my main focus.
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What Are “Pick Me Girls”?
“Pick Me Girl” is an internet slang term for a girl who is constantly seeking male validation and approval, usually at the expense of other women. In general, the Pick Me Girl tries to downplay her stereotypically “feminine” traits or interests, characterizing them as silly or annoying, in order to try to appeal to men.
For example, a Pick Me Girl might say she doesn't like silly fruity drinks or bubbly wine—she likes a nice, cold beer. She doesn’t like rom coms, Taylor Swift, or astrology—she’s into football, video games, and the Fast and Furious franchise. In other words, she’s not like other girls.[1]
Where did the term come from?
The idea of the “Pick Me Girl” gained popularity on social media platforms (especially TikTok), but the term itself is believed to come from a famous speech Meredith Grey gives to her love interest, Derek (McDreamy) Shepherd, on Grey’s Anatomy. In the scene, Meredith asks Derek to leave his wife for her, saying, “Pick me, choose me, love me.” The rest is history![2]
Is “pick me girl” an insult?
Yes, this term is usually used as an insult. If someone calls a woman a Pick Me Girl, they’re basically saying she cares way too much about male validation, and she puts down herself and other women in order to get it. As a result, the Pick Me Girl has a reputation for being insecure, inauthentic, and not a “girl’s girl.”
Problems With the Term
The Pick Me Girl label has received considerable backlash for being problematic and misogynistic. Of course, when a woman puts down other women and downplays her true personality in order to appeal to guys, this is not an ideal situation. However, calling her a “Pick Me” and turning her into a meme isn’t actually a solution to this problem—it just makes them feel worse and adds to the already-present insecurity.
Another issue is that many so-called Pick Me Girls are young, and they’re still figuring out who they are and how to flirt. If they exhibit a few Pick Me Girl traits every now and then, this doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll think this way forever! Many of them are just trying to navigate the dating world and their place in it, and calling them Pick Me Girls might be a little bit unfair and mean-spirited.
Long story short? The Pick Me Girl meme can be funny, and it’s fine to enjoy it in good fun. Just be cautious about definitively labelling a real person as a Pick Me Girl, and try to approach people with empathy and understanding, even if they are acting a little bit like one.[3]
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