How to Get a Gemini Man to Chase You, According to Astrologers

Astrologer Julia Topaz gives her best tips on how to attract the Gemini guy of your dreams

Co-authored by Julia Topaz and Annabelle Reyes

Last Updated: November 24, 2025 Fact Checked

So, a captivating Gemini guy has caught your attention, and you want to know how to make him equally as obsessed with you. It's no wonder you have a crush! Geminis are smart, spontaneous, and endlessly interesting to talk to. They also have a reputation for being a little fickle, but it’s just because both sides of their dual nature need to be entertained, or they get bored easily. Luckily, we have all the tips you need to keep your Gemini guy excited about the chase, along with expert insights from professional astrologers.

How to Attract a Gemini Man

Astrologer Julia Topaz says that Gemini men are curious, intellectual, and witty, so you want to appeal to these traits to win them over. To catch a Gemini guy’s attention, start fun conversations about interesting topics, be spontaneous and playful, and try new things with him.

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Tell him you like him.

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Geminis are known for being direct, so let him know you’re interested. They say exactly what's on their mind, and they want the same from you. If you're crushing on him, let him know! Ask him for his number, tell him he's cute, point out the things you like about him—it's all part of the give-and-take that will keep him thinking about you.^{[1]
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- Gemini is an air sign, and air signs are all about talking. That's why you'll make the biggest impact if you tell him you're into him, rather than just trying to show him through wordless flirting.
- Try saying something like, "You're funny, I like you. We should hang out sometime."
- Or, you might say, "You've got a great vibe—I think we'd get along with each other."
Meet the wikiHow Experts

Julia Topaz is an astrologer and the owner of astrology practice Look Up the Stars, as well as the author of “Austrolographs, How the Zodiac Signs Behave (And Misbehave) in Love, Work, and Leisure, and Beyond.”

Tara Divina is a vedic astrologer with nearly 10 years of experience who offers personalized readings that answer her clients’ biggest questions about relationships, money, purpose, and career.

Aliza Kelly is an astrologer based in New York City. She has been featured in numerous publications, including The New York Times, and she writes biweekly columns in The Cut and Marie Claire.

Angel Eyedealism is a professional astrologer with nearly 3 decades of experience. She has been featured in Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, and more.

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Be a little hard to reach sometimes.

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Back away after you let him know you're interested. If you want your Gemini man to chase you, give him some room to run! Try waiting a bit before responding to his text, or let the call go to voicemail once in a while. Not only will it show him you're out enjoying your life, but it will give him a chance to miss you!^{[2]
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- Don't give him every detail about what you're doing when he's not around. Give him a chance to be intrigued.
- Be careful not to go too far with being aloof. Geminis are pretty direct about their feelings, and they don't really like vague emotional games. The goal is to give him a comfortable amount of space, especially at the beginning of your connection—not to disappear completely!

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Make him think you're mysterious.

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Keep some details about your life to yourself to make him curious. According to astrologer Aliza Kelly, Geminis are “incredibly curious,” so be strategic about what you share with your crush at first.^{[3]
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Expert Interview} If you stay a little mysterious at first, rather than telling him your whole life story, a naturally inquisitive Gemini guy is going to be totally intrigued and fascinated. Eventually, he's going to wonder why he can't stop thinking about you!
- If you're telling him about the new restaurant you tried, don't mention who you went with, for instance.
- Another way to seem mysterious is to let him do most of the talking. With a Gemini guy, that should be no problem!

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Try new things with him.

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Geminis crave entertainment, so try to do exciting things with them. According to professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism, you need to “give them a sense of constant amusement, or they become disinterested very quickly!”^{[4]
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Expert Interview} Since Geminis get easily bored with the same old routine, don't be afraid to change things up. That might mean having dinner at a new restaurant, taking a trip somewhere he's never been, or taking up a new hobby together. Anything that sparks his sense of adventure is sure to be a hit!
- Got a fearless Gemini who doesn't mind heights? Invite him skydiving or bungee jumping!
- If your Gemini guy has a case of wanderlust, plan a weekend road trip complete with snacks and cool sunglasses.
- Push him out of his comfort zone by inviting him to take a dance or cooking class with you.

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Surprise him to appeal to his spontaneous side.

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Give him a gift or do something unexpected. If you can find a way to catch him off guard with a sweet surprise, you'll be sure to get his attention. The experience of being surprised matters more than the item itself, so don't worry about picking anything expensive. Just try to make it thoughtful so your Gemini cutie will know you're paying attention to him.^{[5]
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- Send over his favorite take-out dish if you know he's working late.
- Make a Spotify playlist full of your favorite songs. When he hears any of those tracks, he'll think of you!

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Make him laugh with your witty personality.

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Geminis are playful, quick, and witty, so try to match this energy. “Geminis are all about joining in play and pleasure, so you want to flirt with them by stimulating the parts of them that are leaning into these qualities,” explains vedic astrologer Tara Divina.^{[6]
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Expert Interview} In other words, if you're naturally funny, you have an automatic in! But don't give up if humor isn't necessarily your strong point—just follow his lead when it comes to teasing banter and playful jokes.
- Puns, dad jokes, silly stories—if something is funny to you, throw it out there! Geminis love to laugh, so chances are, they'll be receptive.
- Don't be afraid to use a little wry humor to lighten the mood if you're having a serious conversation.

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Ask him interesting questions.

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Keep the conversation fresh to appeal to his intellectual side. Geminis are ruled by Mercury, the planet of communication and the mind, so they love to talk, but get easily bored with surface-level small talk. When chatting up a Gemini guy, “You would want to do something that’s pleasurable for them and their mind,” explains Divina. “Geminis are also dual-minded about things, so showing them both sides of a coin—like, ‘Hey, do you prefer this or that?’—would be a very entertaining conversation for a Gemini.”^{[7]
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- If you know you're going to be seeing your Gemini guy, try coming up with a couple of thought-provoking questions to chat about. Once he realizes that he never gets bored talking to you, he's sure to be hooked! For example, ask questions like:
  - "Would you rather be a cat or a dog?"
  - “Are you a bigger fan of movies or TV shows?”
  - "Did you know snails can sleep for up to 3 years at a time?"
  - "What's your favorite memory from high school?"
  - “Have you read any good books or listened to any cool podcasts lately?”
- Reader Poll: We asked 1032 wikiHow readers if they think Geminis are generally attracted to people who are curious, and 61% of them said yes. [Take Poll]

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Be flexible if he changes things around on you.

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Geminis are known for being fickle, so try not to take it too personally. “Depending on the minute or perhaps second of the day, [a Gemini] could have changed their mind,” explains Eyedealism.^{[8]
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Expert Interview} Your guy may cancel plans at the last minute or randomly invite you out to an event at a moment's notice. He might even seem really into you one day and a little bored the next. Chances are, he's not playing games—that's his dual-sided Gemini nature rearing its indecisive head. Not many people can keep up with that, so if you can roll with the changes, he's going to be seriously impressed!
- If he calls to cancel a dinner date, for instance, you might say, "Cool, my friend Krista wanted me to go to a comedy club tonight. I'll just do that instead."
- If he seems a little distant, just give him some space. When he sees you're not chasing him, he'll probably be that much more interested in reaching back out to you.

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Keep an upbeat attitude when he's around.

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Make sure he feels good when he's with you. The two faces of a Gemini mean your guy might seem a little moody sometimes. Don't let that ruffle you, though! If you maintain a playful, fun attitude and avoid lingering too long on serious or heavy topics, you’ll be able to get him smiling and laughing in no time. And, if you can be a consistently positive presence in his life, a fun-loving Gemini guy is definitely going to crave more time around you!
- For instance, if he's surly about a bad day at work, you might bring up a funny story to take his mind off of it. With a Gemini guy, “It’s always about trying to lighten the mood and have fun,” explains Kelly.^{[9]
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- Also, try not to be offended if he doesn’t want to open up right away about whatever’s bothering him. “Early on, their focus is usually more intellectual and fun, rather than deeply emotional,” explains Topaz.^{[10]
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- Once you two have spent more time together and deepened your connection, he’ll likely get more comfortable being vulnerable around you!

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Respect his independence.

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Geminis hate to feel restricted, so do your best to avoid being too clingy. Gemini is a freedom-loving sign that “doesn’t want to feel stifled or stuck,” explains Kelly.^{[11]
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Expert Interview} If you can give him the space to do his own thing (within reason), he'll be impressed by your self-confidence, and he'll feel like he can be himself when he's with you. That kind of security is sure to keep a Gemini man coming back for more!
- If he's planning a night out with his buddies, don't act jealous or try to make him stay home. Instead, smile and encourage him to have a great time.
- Make your own plans when you know he's going to be busy. That way, the two of you will have plenty to talk about when you meet back up—and you know Geminis love to talk!

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Live your own best life.

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Let your Gemini guy see how independent and fun you are. If you're out there pursuing your favorite hobbies, taking cool trips, and living it up with your besties, any guy would see that he’s totally lucky to spend time with you. For a Gemini man who craves excitement, adventure, and independence, it might just make you seem completely irresistible!
- Don't just sit by the phone waiting for your Gemini crush to call. Make plans to do your own thing!

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Check your zodiac compatibility.

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Figure out how you can use your sign to attract him. Geminis are highly compatible with signs like Aries, Aquarius, Leo, Libra, and other Geminis. If you're one of those signs, you might not have to do much to catch his attention—just be you. Other signs might need a little work to make a love match. If your sign is:^{[12]
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- Taurus: Balance your need for stability with Gemini's love of independence.
- Cancer: Gemini may not nurture you the way you normally prefer, so be direct if you need reassurance.
- Virgo: Let go of the details and enjoy going with the Gemini's flow.
- Scorpio: Embrace Gemini's free spirit, even though it's very different from your more steady disposition.
- Sagittarius: Your pairing works well together if you can accept that Gemini might not take things quite as seriously as you do.
- Capricorn: Planning and structure can be a challenge to the whimsical Gemini, but try to enjoy being pulled out of your comfort zone.
- Pisces: Don't get in your head too much—Gemini doesn't really play games, so just relax and have fun.

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