How to Flirt After the First Date

Co-authored by Michelle Jacoby and Hunter Rising

Last Updated: June 21, 2024 References

Did you just wrap up an amazing first date and aren’t sure what to text them so they stay interested? Or maybe you’re really excited to see them and want to schedule a second date right away. It can be a little scary to follow up with someone that you vibed with, but flirting after the first date is simpler than you think. Keep reading for some fun and flirty example texts to send when you like them and want to keep going out!

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“Just popping in to say thanks for such an amazing time tonight. I can’t wait to do it again!”

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If you had fun on your date, there’s no need to wait to tell them. Text them as soon as you want afterward so they know you’re excited to spend time together.^{[1]
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“I just got back home, but I wish I was still with you! I can’t wait until next time!”

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Tell your date you’re back safe so you don’t keep your date guessing. Your date will appreciate the update so they don’t worry about you or how you’re feeling all night.
- Enthusiasm and warmth are super important when you're sending a text.^{[2]
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“Seeing you definitely made my entire week 🥰”

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Your date will love hearing that they’re the best part of your week. This text will make your date feel really special and tells them that you had a really fun and memorable time together.
- Don't be afraid to use emojis and exclamation points to give your message a really warm tone.^{[3]
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“I would have talked to you all night long if I could.”

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Wanting to chat and learn more about your date makes you sound eager to spend time with them again. It also shows that you value what they have to say, so they’ll want to keep the conversation alive.

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“BTW you looked amazing tonight 😊”

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Your date will be flattered that you noticed the effort they put into their looks.

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“I already miss seeing your smile.”

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Mentioning a specific thing from your date that you’re still thinking about lets them know they’ve left a lasting impression on you.

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“I almost forgot to tell you how hot you were before I fell asleep! 🥰 Good night!”

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They’ll think that it’s so sweet that you’re ending the night chatting with them.^{[4]
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“I woke up with you still on my mind 🙂 hope you have a great day today!”

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After reading this text, your date will be in a good mood right when they wake up.

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“I just checked out that song you mentioned! I can’t wait to dance along to it with you 🥰”

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Your date will appreciate that you took the time to check out what they brought up and share your thoughts on it.

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“If that was the first date, I can’t wait to see what you have planned next! 😉”

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Now that your date knows that you want to see them again, challenge them to plan something even more fun or romantic to keep the spark alive.

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“I still can’t believe you haven’t seen Star Wars! We’re changing that next time we get together!”

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Suggest a fun second date based on something you talked about already. Since you already mentioned it on your first date or while chatting, it’s a perfect idea for what to do next time you’re together.
- If sparks are flying, suggest a second date soon to keep the momentum going.
- Reader Poll: We asked 1673 wikiHow readers who've planned a second date, and 53% of them agreed that the ideal time frame for a second date is within a few days to a week after the first date. [Take Poll]

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“I still can’t believe you beat me at mini-golf! We need a rematch ASAP.”

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Your date will see that you’re having a lot of fun and want to keep the good times rolling, especially if they like to be a little competitive.

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“I wish we could have kissed last night, but that gives us something to look forward to 😘”

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If you left the first date wanting more, tease your date to show them what they’re missing. If they feel the same, they’ll jump at the chance to see you again.