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Consulting astrologer Donna Stellhorn shares whether Aquarius and Virgo can make their relationship work
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Are the effervescent Water Bearer and the cautious Virgin destined by the stars to be together? On paper, it could go either way, but sparks can fly when these independent signs meet in real life. Aquarius and Virgo are more similar than you’d think, and they have the potential to start an exciting relationship. We’ve consulted several expert astrologers about what happens when these two date—read on to find out!

Virgo & Aquarius: Compatibility Overview

Consulting astrologer Donna Stellhorn says Aquarius embraces spontaneity, while Virgo would rather have a plan. This can pose challenges in a relationship, but they can be a match if they accept and compromise with each other. Overall, they admire each other’s intellect and ideas and could be good friends or lovers.

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Can an Aquarius-Virgo relationship work?

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  1. Aquarius and Virgo form a quincunx aspect on the zodiac wheel (they’re 5 signs apart), which means they don’t have a lot in common but coexist easily. They’re pretty different—Virgo is a reserved, organized earth sign, while Aquarius is an eccentric air sign that plays by their own rules. When they communicate what they have in common, they make a strong pair.
    • These signs are independent and satisfied with the single life, according to psychic astrologer Stina Garbis. Virgo is known as the bachelor of the zodiac, and Aquarius is not one to settle down easily.[1]
    • “There are instances when Aquarius and Virgo are quite compatible,” says Stellhorn. For example, “an Aquarian with a strong Saturn influence is more likely to approach life in a scientific, straightlaced, and disciplined manner, which is more in harmony with Virgo energy.”[2]
    • On the flip side, Stellhorn says, “the Aquarian with a strong Uranus is more eccentric, innovative, and impulsive, so both Virgo and Aquarius natives may need a little more time to find their rhythm together.”[3]

    Meet the wikiHow Experts

    Donna Stellhorn is a consulting astrologer and author, with expertise in Western astrology, Chinese astrology, tarot reading, numerology, and feng shui.

    Stina Garbis has been a psychic, medium, and astrologer for over 30 years and is also a well-known spiritual social media influencer.

    Angel Eyedealism is a professional astrologer with nearly three decades of experience, specializing in relocation astrology and astrocartography.

    Tali & Ophira Edut are astrologers and best-selling authors known as the AstroTwins. They’re also founders of Astrostyle, the popular horoscope website.

  2. Aquarius and Virgo need to start things slowly; Virgo is very cautious, and Aquarius needs to feel like they’ll be accepted for who they are. They may even enjoy a friends-with-benefits arrangement for a while before actually dating. “[Aquarius] blends love and friendships,” explains Garbis, “So there may not be a clear line where one ends and the other begins.”[4]
    • Aquarius is a natural altruist, and Virgo loves to pitch in and help people, according to professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism.[5] It’s possible they’ll meet at a charity event or while they’re volunteering.
    • Their first conversations will be very animated. Outsiders might think they’re arguing, but they’re really enjoying a lively, intellectual debate.[6]
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Aquarius: A Closer Look

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  1. Aquarius is smart, logical—and, more than that, they’re an innovator at heart. They want to understand how things work and improve them, and they’re definitely the “rebels” of the zodiac; they aren’t afraid to forge their own path through life. And, though Aquarius is way more free-spirited, Virgo’s down-to-earth nature can be appealing. “Some Aquarians prefer structure and may be drawn to signs like Virgo and Capricorn for balance,” explain astrologers Tali & Ophira Edut.[7]
    • Ruling planet: Uranus (the planet of innovation, freedom, and change)
    • Modality: Fixed (steadfast, persistent, and stubborn)
    • Famous Aquariuses: Megan Thee Stallion, Alicia Keys, Harry Styles, Shakira, Kerry Washington, Cristiano Ronaldo, Tom Hiddleston, Elijah Wood, Stephanie Beatriz, and Elizabeth Olsen
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Virgo: A Closer Look

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  1. They’re super smart and analytical; there’s no problem Virgo can’t solve, and they love bringing order to chaos. Underneath Virgo’s quiet, reserved exterior is a bright mind—and a bit of a perfectionist! This sign expects a lot from themselves (and others), and works hard to meet those lofty standards; deep down, however, that perfectionism stems from Virgo’s desire to help others and make a real difference.
    • Ruling planet: Mercury (the planet of intelligence and communication)
    • Modality: Mutable (curious, flexible, and adaptable)
    • Famous Virgos: Beyoncé, Zendaya, Prince Harry, John Mulaney, Keke Palmer, Salma Hayek, Nick Jonas, Chris Pine, Melissa McCarthy, Keanu Reeves, and Ava DuVernay
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Aquarius & Virgo Sexual Compatibility

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  1. Virgo will be anxious about pleasing Aquarius, and Aquarius may find that annoying. When Virgo feels reassured they’re doing a good job and Aquarius looks at Virgo’s attentiveness as a gift, then their pleasure will be never-ending. They enjoy trying new things, and Aquarius will tease out Virgo’s hidden fantasies with their refreshing non-judgment.
    • Shy Virgo needs Aquarius to be patient while they adjust to their fast-paced, uninhibited sexuality.
    • Virgo needs to let Aquarius know they’re interested in them sexually early on, or, as Eyedealism explains, Aquarius will keep thinking of sex as a concept and not act on it.[8]
    • Aquarius will benefit from the affection Virgo brings to the bedroom since, according to Garbis, they have a hard time bridging the gap from a physical relationship to something more serious.[9]
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Aquarius & Virgo Emotional Compatibility

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  1. Virgo dates for long-term stability and family life, while Aquarius is in it for fun and mental stimulation. The emotional connection Virgo needs is hard to find in Aquarius—they don’t want to have to constantly reassure their partner of how they feel. If Virgo doesn’t feel like their affection is being reciprocated, they’ll decide the relationship just won’t work.
    • Virgo will worry about wild Aquarius and want to keep them close. This goes against Aquarius’s need for personal freedom and space.
    • Aquarius can satisfy Virgo by being more romantic. Their creativity can lead them to unique gestures of love! Meanwhile, career-driven Virgo can take time away from work to give Aquarius more attention; the Water Bearer needs to feel understood and accepted.
  2. Aquarius and Virgo are very rational when it comes to honesty, so trust will form early on. When they learn to accept each other despite their differences—and verbalize that mutual respect and acceptance—their bond will be virtually unbreakable.
    • Doubt might creep in at large gatherings—Virgo can be insecure when Aquarius socializes with everyone, and Aquarius might get irked if Virgo thinks somebody else is as interesting as they are.
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Aquarius & Virgo Intellectual Compatibility

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  1. Intellectual compatibility is amazing for these two: they’re logical, informed, and love to learn. Their conversations will be incredibly stimulating, and they’ll never run out of things to talk about. Since Virgo is ruled by Mercury (which rules communication) and Aquarius is a logical air sign, they’re natural problem solvers who will motivate each other to develop their intellectual talents.
    • Aquarius and Virgo represent the ultimate union of creativity and organization. There’s little they can’t do when they put their minds together.[10]
    • They also have similar tastes and will probably be interested in the same TV shows, art galleries, live performances, and music.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 174 wikiHow readers if they think having common interests and goals is important to the success of a romantic relationship, and 87% of them said yes. [Take Poll]
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Aquarius & Virgo Communication Compatibility

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  1. They both value openness and honesty, but tend to skirt around their emotional issues, which can cause resentment to build until it explodes in a fight. They’ll need to work on being direct with each other to diffuse drama and grow together as a couple. Day to day, Aquarius will need to hold themselves accountable for not texting back or leaving the house without telling Virgo, who will worry or grow irritated by the chaos.
    • “Often, Aquarius embraces spontaneity, while Virgo would rather have a plan,” says Stellhorn. “Aquarius also likes to be unique and stand out in the crowd, while Virgo is more inclined to want to be part of a team.”[11] This can cause tension in their relationship.
    • Virgo needs to set firm personal boundaries since they’re more likely to cave to Aquarius’s wants and needs. As Garbis explains, Aquarians can be stubborn, and when they reach a decision, it’s hard to get them to change their mind.[12]
    • Garbis adds that Virgo prides themself on being the critic who’s always right.[13] This might upset Aquarius, who is deeply hurt when they feel judged.
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Shared Aquarius-Virgo Traits

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  1. On the surface, the two are both quite reserved—even aloof at times. It’s not that they’re trying to seem unapproachable or standoffish; they just prefer to take a step back, observe, and soak in the situation rather than being the center of attention. Additionally, both care about helping people and making the world better, in their own ways!
    • Virgo is much more likely to focus on caring for their loved ones in direct, meaningful ways, whereas Aquarius dreams bigger—they’re humanitarians who want to take on important causes and fix the world’s problems.
    • Nonetheless, the two will appreciate one another’s compassion and dedication to helping others. And two heads are better than one; they can do even more as a pair than they could individually!
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Aquarius & Virgo Friendship Compatibility

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  1. Yes, they have their differences—some more major than others—but this pair could really become a problem-solving super-duo if they put their minds to it! Both are intelligent, thoughtful, and very helpful, and if they put in the effort to get to know one another beyond all the surface-level stuff, they’ll probably end up as the best of friends.
    • The only challenge in their friendship is the fact that it can be tough for them to get to know each other; neither sign really enjoys opening up to people they don’t know well.
    • For this friendship to grow, Aquarius and Virgo may need to give each other a little time. It probably won’t be an instantaneous “Did we just become best friends?!” situation.
    • Nonetheless, if they keep on making an effort to chat, hang out, and slowly deepen the friendship, they can definitely reach “BFF” status in the end.
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Aquarius & Virgo Marriage Compatibility

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  1. Aquarius is just so driven and stubborn that they might end up walking all over the people-pleasing Virgo if they aren’t careful. Virgo wants to make their partner happy, so they’re more likely to let Aquarius have everything their way rather than fight about it—which leads to resentment on Virgo’s end. A successful Virgo-Aquarius marriage is one where Aquarius learns to stop, listen to Virgo, and really try to understand their perspective, too!
    • As tough as direct communication can be for this pair, it really is the cornerstone of a great long-term partnership.
    • When they have differences of opinion, they’ll need to find ways to compromise and meet each other in the middle.
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Aquarius and Virgo: The Bottom Line

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  1. They’re very different, but share many values like helping others, exploring the world, and learning new things. When they’re direct about their feelings and embrace honesty and patience, they’ll find the balance between Virgo’s love of order and Aquarius’s eccentric patterns.
    • Each partner thrives where the other doesn’t, and when they work together, they’re truly unstoppable.
    • These two will flourish in shared creative projects and will grow even closer when they embrace spontaneity and new experiences.
    • Virgo can support Aquarius’s unique traits and ideas, and Aquarius can teach Virgo how to relax and enjoy going with the flow.
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This article was co-authored by Donna Stellhorn and by wikiHow staff writer, Glenn Carreau. Donna Stellhorn is an astrologer and feng shui expert based in Oceanside, CA. With over 30 years of experience in the field, Donna has expertise in Western astrology, Chinese astrology, tarot reading, numerology, and feng shui. She got her start writing a column on Feng Shui for the New Mexico Light and currently clocks nearly 1,000 hours of consultation time each year working with clients. Donna is also the author of 20 books on Western and Chinese astrology and feng shui, including Chinese Astrology: Life, Love and Luck in Twelve Animal Signs. Donna has lectured on feng shui and Chinese astrology to a variety of organizations and at conferences, including Warner Records, Western Digital, and the United Astrologer Conference in Chicago. She also sits on the board of the National Council for Geocosmic Research - San Diego chapter. This article has been viewed 582,478 times.
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