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Hayley Quinn

Dating Coach

Hayley Quinn is a UK-based dating coach who teaches men and women globally how to meet and date people in real life, not just on apps. She has over 15 years of experience and has coached more than 7,500 clients worldwide through her in-person coaching and boot camps. Her unique in-person dating bootcamps have been reviewed by Cosmopolitan, The Independent, and Grazia. As one of the most trusted dating coaches in the world, her coaching expertise has also been featured in multiple published books, across international media, and in a viral TEDx talk. Her passion is helping her dating coaching clients to achieve real-world results.

Education

  • BA in English, UCL

Professional Achievements

  • Award-winning dating coach
  • 3 million views on her TEDx talk about love
  • 2 published books about dating ("The Last First Date", 2023 Harper Collins, "Do This, Not That: Dating", Simon & Schuster)
  • 110,000 YouTube subscribers to my dating coaching channel

Favorite Piece of Advice

The action is the win. I don't believe you learn to find love by getting lost in theory, I get my dating coaching clients out into the real world, building real skills and finding real relationships.

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Forum Comments (2)

What are end-of-the-date signals that show a first date went well?
A couple of signs that a date went well would be that there was more physical contact than you imagined or that the other person seemed fully focused, engaged, and present. The conversation on the date was flowing, so there were no awkward moments or a feeling that you were really searching for something to say. If someone is checking their social media under the table, on the other hand, it’s not such a great sign. You may also feel the date ended on a high, or notice that the date ran late, or you lost sense of time.

At the end of the first date, you may find yourself saying, "I'd love to see you again." You could also give the person something to do, like, "Message me when you get home safe”. Along with that, maybe you feel comfortable with messaging them and using that as a continuation of the vibe that you had on a first date.

Ultimately, I'd encourage people not to read too much into signs and to instead listen to what they would like to have happen next, and if their answer is, "I would like to see this person again," to feel comfortable in communicating and expressing that and getting a clear response.
I like multiple girls. How do I decide between them?
Don't put pressure on yourself to decide unnaturally quickly. Often, it will become obvious over time. The most important qualities for a relationship are consistency, personal connection, mutual respect, and shared goals. These things only become apparent after you've gotten to know someone over a period of time.

Another thing I’d say is that you should prioritize people who prioritize you. We often focus on the qualities on paper. Are they physically attractive? Are they fun to hang out with? Do we have a connection? One of the most important, if not the most important, relationship-building qualities is consistent effort. So prioritize people who show up for you.

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Is Sex on the First Date a Relationship Killer? Pros and Cons

Dating coach Hayley Quinn explains whether having sex on the first date is a good ideaEver heard the rule, “Never have sex on the first date”? A lot of people assume that a romp in the bedroom first thing can kill yo...

What's My Beige Flag?

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Where to Meet Men: 14 Fun Places (That Aren’t Dating Apps)

Expert tips to make authentic connections with single menWhether you’re an older person looking to meet the next love of your life or a young person just trying to develop more connections, meeting men in real life can...

200+ Deep Questions to Get to Know Someone Better

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