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Connell Barrett

Dating Coach

Connell Barrett is a Relationship Expert and the Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation in New York City. Connell has over five years of experience as an international coach who helps men connect with women by unlocking their best, true, most confident selves. Connell encourages men to be authentic and to take action in their dating lives.

Education

  • University of Minnesota, BA, Psychology
  • Loyola University Chicago, MA, Applied Social Psychology

Professional Achievements

  • Published "Dating Sucks, but You Don't: The Modern Guy's Guide to Total Confidence, Romantic Connection, and Finding the Perfect Partner" in 2021
  • Datezie.com's "New York City’s Best Male Dating Coach" in 2019
  • Appeared on Good Morning America, the “Today” Show, and Access Hollywood
  • Featured in Best Life, Cosmopolitan, and Playboy

Certifications & Organizations

  • Professional Advisor for AskMen

Philosophy

Connell's mission is to help men find their soulmate as their most authentic, confident self. Finding dating success is about authenticity—letting people connect with your true self. When you date with A.C.E., Authenticity, Clarity, and Expressiveness, you channel your most confident self.

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Forum Comments (6)

Physical Contact on a First Date: How Much Is Appropriate?
I like to greet a date with a warm, friendly hug, almost like a big brotherly hug. Nothing lingering, nothing sexual, just a nice warm hug. It sets the tone for the date and it also says, "Hey, physical touching might happen," at least in a friendly way. Maybe the date will end with a kiss, maybe it won't.
Can a girl make the first move on a guy?
A girl can definitely be the one to make the first move on a guy. Try starting with small moves, then work your way up from there. For example, you could sit close to this guy or touch him lightly on the shoulder while talking. If that gesture gets a green light, it might mean that he would be interested if you made a move.
How do you maintain a long distance relationship in high school?
If you’re in a long distance relationship in high school, make sure to set aside time to talk to each other on a regular basis. Some fun things you can do to stay connected include talking on the phone, setting up a scheduled video chat, or watching a movie together at the same time.
How to smoothly ask for a girl's number?
The best way to ask for a girl's number is to not ask so much as lead. Strike up a conversation the next time you see her. While you're talking, give her a compliment, like, "Hey, I enjoy talking to you, you're really funny, you're really witty, I've enjoyed this. Let's trade numbers," then take out your phone and assume that she feels the same way. Feel confident about it. Don't say, "Hey, can I please maybe get your number?" Instead, be confident and approach it with an attitude of, "Hey, of course we're going to trade numbers, we clearly like each other."

Remember that the phone number should be exchanged as a byproduct of a nice flirtatious connected conversation. It's not a trophy. It's not the reason for the conversation. It's simply a byproduct of two people connecting and getting closer, who want to see each other again.
What are the best ways to ask a girl out?
When asking out a girl, the key is to be confident and clear but not too direct. Being too direct would sound something like, “You're gorgeous and sexy and I want to date you.” That might make a girl feel uncomfortable. Instead, just be clear and say, "Hey, are you free for dinner on Thursday night? It'd be great to get to know you better.” This kind of invite makes it clear that you’re romantically interested in her.
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