How do I come out to my (unclear if supportive or not) dad and brothers?
I'm bisexual and out to my friends and my mom. I really want to tell my dad and my brothers (and my mom is trying to help, but... she doesn't get it at all...). I want to be publicly out to my family so I can get like stickers and pins and flags and stuff bi like christmas at least. However, my family has never really talked abt lgbtq+ unless I bring it up and then the conversation doesn't last very long. My brothers probably won't care and it'll be easy to like wave a flag in their face and be like "hey it's me! It's the bisexual flag btw!" but my dad... not so much. My mom has said that I shouldn't do a text because my dad needs a more clear message. I do agree with this but I'm stuck cuz the idea of telling him in person is scary. The best I can think of is a letter but I really don't want to be in the house when he reads it so placing it and finding a place to go would be kinda hard. Also my handwriting would probably be inelgible cuz I'd be paniking when I'd be writing it and he has bad eyesight so... help please?
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I wouldn't recommend coming out in a text. You want to make the humanizing connection when you're talking about this stuff. For me, I've always explained the coming out process as not that you’re coming out, but that you're actually allowing people to come into your life. You're allowing people to come in and see who you are, to know who you are. And to allow someone to see inside your soul, to see every fiber of who you are, is a beautiful gift – and it's an expression of love.
Especially with family, think about putting it out there with love. You love your father so much that you want to be open and honest and share every aspect of yourself with your father. And it is hard because there are many of us, myself included, who have been rejected or have lost after coming out. But there are also so many who have won, and who have had family rally around them. So again, I would broach it with a humanizing love and tenderness, and open up to your dad by saying that you're doing this not because you feel obligated, but because you want to share this with him. You want to be able to tell him everything about who you are.
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Especially with family, think about putting it out there with love. You love your father so much that you want to be open and honest and share every aspect of yourself with your father. And it is hard because there are many of us, myself included, who have been rejected or have lost after coming out. But there are also so many who have won, and who have had family rally around them. So again, I would broach it with a humanizing love and tenderness, and open up to your dad by saying that you're doing this not because you feel obligated, but because you want to share this with him. You want to be able to tell him everything about who you are.
I came out to my family as Bisexual and they are cool with it. If you just work up the courage I have faith in you! Just a few things to know. You don't owe anyone shizz! So don't fret or the little things. If your dad is cool and fun he might respond with, 'cool' or 'ok'. If you think about coming out to your dad (and brothers!) Is gonna put you in harms way. Don't risk yourself just for acceptance. Also for your mom, if she doesn't understand it just sit down with her and explain it to her, that might help her understand more. I REALLY hoped this helped you! And let me know if it did!!
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Help I'm bi to and i haven't told my family. ive only told 2 friends. anyway, i think you should try to write neat if you really think a letter is a good idea. or type it out and print it. idk im stupid :/
good luck tho :)
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good luck tho :)
I told my older brother and he said he agrees with my parents at the fact that I'm not bi and that it's unnatural and that he never wants to associate with bi and gay people. He told me to stop calling myself bi because he claims that I'm not. I thought I could trust him enough for him to support me but he won't listen. Me and him aren't on speaking terms for now until I process it all. I have two gay friends and one bi friend. I want to tell my older sister but I don't want her to see me different either and her to be disgusted with me. I don't want to feel any more pain that I already have right now with everyone calling me weird different and unnatural. What should I do??😭
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try bringing up random hypotheticals or make jokes to see their reactions or answers, try and get a bit of a read on how they might react to the real thing. do that for a while and then that can help.
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I've been pan and bi at different times, I'm aroace now, but when I was coming out, it was really easy to come out to my mom. I actly still haven't come out to my dad yet so I actly probably wont be that helpful, but I say you should just tell them, and hope for the best. sorry if this comment didn't help, but I hope it did!
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I'm pan but I've only told a couple close friends. I would try to explain to your mom though and see if that helps.
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Ok so I'm bi too (well I think I'm pan but idk) and haven't told my fam cuz they're VERY homophobic, but I think you should write the letter because that's actually really smart and also, ik your mom doesn't rlly get it, but also maybe ask your mom to write it for you, like, tell her what to write or smth. idk. gl!
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