Am I actually Non binary?
For a while now I've been going under the label of "Non binary" and going by they/them, but I'm not sure if that's who I really am. I've been having a lot body dysmorphia, so I'm worried that I may be wrong. Usually, I feel comfortable with my label, but sometimes I like doing more feminine things. Please give some feedback, especially if you have experienced something similar.
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Non-binary is a broad gender and category of genders, which is lovely. It describes any gender identity that is outside of the strict binary of man and woman, in whatever way. So some non-binary people do connect with manhood or womanhood in some capacity, whether it's at all times or fluctuating. For example. I'm genderfluid, so my gender identity shifts and changes over time; sometimes I feel more connected to womanhood, and sometimes I feel more connected to manhood–sometimes I feel connected to neither. So it's completely possible for non-binary people to feel connected to the binary in some capacity. A lot of non-binary people also feel completely separate from the binary, whether that is through xenogenders and having a gender that uses language that is completely different from how we ascribe language to gender in our society, or whether that is through being agender. There are so many ways to be non-binary.
In that thread, it can be challenging to figure out if you are non-binary, because it's not one strict yes or no thing that you can answer. However, my biggest piece of advice would be to think about how your mind and body feel in reaction to being placed within whatever strict societal gendered box you find yourself placed in. For example, I was placed in the box of being a woman, and I always felt constricted, embarrassed and strange within that. It always felt wrong to me, and I couldn't quite articulate why. Later on, I was able to discover language like "non-binary" and "genderfluid", which really helped me understand who I am further. So, I'd suggest noticing that discomfort, and see if that leads you anywhere. But it's also possible that you might not have discomfort or dysphoria whatsoever. You might feel completely comfortable with the language around you and how you feel, and you just might want to use the label non-binary (or any other label), and that's completely fine as well.
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In that thread, it can be challenging to figure out if you are non-binary, because it's not one strict yes or no thing that you can answer. However, my biggest piece of advice would be to think about how your mind and body feel in reaction to being placed within whatever strict societal gendered box you find yourself placed in. For example, I was placed in the box of being a woman, and I always felt constricted, embarrassed and strange within that. It always felt wrong to me, and I couldn't quite articulate why. Later on, I was able to discover language like "non-binary" and "genderfluid", which really helped me understand who I am further. So, I'd suggest noticing that discomfort, and see if that leads you anywhere. But it's also possible that you might not have discomfort or dysphoria whatsoever. You might feel completely comfortable with the language around you and how you feel, and you just might want to use the label non-binary (or any other label), and that's completely fine as well.
Hi! I have been using they/them for a while now. I was born as, Scout. She/Her. I want to go by Charlie now, and I might be he/them??? I don't know. Plz help meeeeee🥲
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I can try to help.I have experienced so much dysphoria over the past...like 6 years, and have gone by SO MANY labels (gender-fluid, non binary, ect.) But in my case, it was because I am trans. In your case, if you like doing girly things, the pronouns don't matter. You can do whatever you want with whatever pronouns you want. In my opinion, go with whatever pronouns make you comfortable and keep doing the stuff you love.
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Thank you. I also might be genderfluid now...??? IDKKKKKKKKKK I also got a girlfriend🙂 yay for meeeee
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