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why does everyone assume that I am bisexual or even lesbian?

Dr.Freak86
Dr.Freak86
11/17/25 6:03pm
as a person who has been openly very straight, why does everyone i meet automatically assume that i like other women? yes, i am incredibly tomboyish and not feminine at all, but i don't really see how that would make me like women. like, sure, one of my friends saying that i am so straight that i "sound like a gay man" is one thing, and i can understand that at the very least because i have said some...very interesting things about fictional men. but i just don't get why random people will walk up to me and ask if i am lesbian.
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Fairy Wade
Fairy Wade
11/26/25 4:58am
A reason that might be happening is simply because the fact that your tomboyish. Most lesbians and bisexual people are like that so they might think that you are because of that or it’s just a simple misunderstanding.
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