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The friend drama. I need advice please

Isabelparkerrogers
Isabelparkerrogers
12/18/25 5:52pm
Okay, so my friends had been in this fight for a very long time hating each other and spreading rumors about one another etc, and I wanted it to be over. I spent my time supporting both sides, and now they had made up and never told me. They are now ignoring me and side eyeing me, and also running away from me. I need advice please. Thank you.
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SRD17
SRD17
12/20/25 6:40pm
I feel you should try to make some time and try to get hold of them at school or somewhere else. Speak out open abt your fights and how rough the days have been, even if they try to ignore you as much as possible. There is a high chance they might listen to you. Wait for them to get a little comfortable to talk with you. Then, you might become friends again with them. Anyways, All the Best!!
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Waaasuppwikihowe
Waaasuppwikihowe
01/23/26 12:24am
Just leave that friendship and hangout with different people. you can never go both ways when it's a war between 1 on 1
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Mark.Johnson.2
Mark.Johnson.2
12/30/25 7:03am
It sounds like you were trying to help, but they may feel awkward or defensive now that they’ve made up. Give them a little space, then calmly reach out to one of them and explain that your intention was to support everyone, not take sides. If they still pull away, remember you did nothing wrong—focus on friends who communicate honestly and respect you.
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LIAMMMM
LIAMMMM
12/26/25 3:54am
Ight so I’m a guy but I hear about stuff similar to this in a way from some of my hgs and I always say like if u care about being their fren then text her or call her or them and try to talk it out but if ur like ehhh idrc if they’re my fren or not I would say just drop them and make new ones buttttt downside is since they made rumors about each other they would most likely make rumors about you so I would try and talk it out
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Askobi🫥
Askobi🫥
12/23/25 1:41am
I epithize for you! My best friend Jaliyah is mad at me and I don't know why. and she JUST got over being mad at me a few weeks ago. I sent her an email and got her a gift. try that then see if it works?
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