My boy best friend confessed his love to me. Help!
Guys, the other day, i got a text from a girl at my school. She asked if i had a crush on anyone. I told her that i don't.
She then proceeded to tell me that my boy best friend, Luke, has a crush on me. The next day, I got a text from Luke, asking if the girl told me everything. I told him yes. He asked me if we could start dating. I then, respectfully told him that i'm not looking for a romantic relationship right now. He said "ok" and we haven't really been hanging out since.
I want everything to go back to the way it was. What should I do?
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She then proceeded to tell me that my boy best friend, Luke, has a crush on me. The next day, I got a text from Luke, asking if the girl told me everything. I told him yes. He asked me if we could start dating. I then, respectfully told him that i'm not looking for a romantic relationship right now. He said "ok" and we haven't really been hanging out since.
I want everything to go back to the way it was. What should I do?
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Oof, we're so sorry. This is such a tough situation to be in! Unfortunately, things may not go "back to normal" for a while. Luke may need some time to get over his feelings, which is totally understandable. But he may also feel too embarrassed to hang out, or assume you don't want to. It might be worth it to tell him you'd love to hang out as friends again, just so he knows you're prepared to move forward and continue the friendship, but know that he may tell you he needs time apart to cope with his feelings. Good luck!
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I'm so sorry about this. It has to be handled really, really delicately. Let Luke know how honored you feel that they do feel this way, and acknowledge their feelings without shaming them or making them feel bad. Then, gently let them know you really love the friendship and want to keep it the way it is. Make it clear that you're not interested in a romantic relationship with him.
Luke may not feel ready to resume the friendship right away, but don't give up on him. Give him a little bit of space, but then try to be present and let them know, "Hey, I still want to hang out," or, "I still care about this friendship," because I do think you can move on from this eventually. But Luke might feel pretty awkward, so you'll probably have to do the heavy lifting of keeping the friendship intact while he is processing a rejection.
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Luke may not feel ready to resume the friendship right away, but don't give up on him. Give him a little bit of space, but then try to be present and let them know, "Hey, I still want to hang out," or, "I still care about this friendship," because I do think you can move on from this eventually. But Luke might feel pretty awkward, so you'll probably have to do the heavy lifting of keeping the friendship intact while he is processing a rejection.
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