I still don't get it am I gay or bi?
I'm transmasc, and I've always identified with the 'Achillean' label, or 'MLM', because I've always liked men/masculine-leaning people, but recently I have had a strange desire for women/feminine-leaning people, and I don't know how to explain it. I took the 'Am I Bisexual' test and it said I might be bi or queer, but I already knew that I wasn't straight, I don't have an answer here.
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It's hard when you have identified with one label, and have come to understand that label to be your sexuality based on your experiences, but then suddenly you have a shift in your experiences, and you have to come to reckon with that language. That's a challenging and unnerving experience. And, it's also a cool experience to be able to learn about what different identities are out there and find an identity and label that works for you.
It's not necessary to define and label your identity and your sexuality if that is not helpful to you at this point, or if it feels more stressful/harmful than helpful, then that is not a requirement.
But, if it feels like a label would be helpful in order to better understand yourself, then my suggestion is to read through the definitions of different labels, read through all the different sexualities, and read them out loud to yourself – see if any of the words stick out to you. Try saying, "I am bisexual" versus "I am gay" out loud or to your friends and see if it feels right or not. Oftentimes, you can get a sense of if a word feels right to you by being in tune with your body. You can also stick with one word for a little bit and then change the word if you find a word that feels better for you; it's totally up to you.
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It's not necessary to define and label your identity and your sexuality if that is not helpful to you at this point, or if it feels more stressful/harmful than helpful, then that is not a requirement.
But, if it feels like a label would be helpful in order to better understand yourself, then my suggestion is to read through the definitions of different labels, read through all the different sexualities, and read them out loud to yourself – see if any of the words stick out to you. Try saying, "I am bisexual" versus "I am gay" out loud or to your friends and see if it feels right or not. Oftentimes, you can get a sense of if a word feels right to you by being in tune with your body. You can also stick with one word for a little bit and then change the word if you find a word that feels better for you; it's totally up to you.
fellow trans masc here! I have experienced something similar. For me I was gay at first and then I was crushing on a woman..I talked to one of my best friends abt it and they said I might be bi or pan. After careful consideration (wikihow tests lol) I realized that I was Pan. I don't honestly know what you are but I would maybe do some more online quizzes and maybe like..just keep an open mind. :D
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