I have strict parents and they are not allowing me to date anybody until I'm 18
Basically, I met this guy last semester of school, and I've known that he liked me from the start. At first, I wasn't sure if I liked him, but as I started to hang out with him more this semester, I started to like him too. We both share the same interests, and we're good friends, but I know that he wants to be more than that. The problem is that I have strict parents and they are not allowing me to date anybody until I'm 18 and he's a senior, which means we'll be parting ways after this school year ends. I've already told him previously about my situation about my strict parents, but it seems that he still wants to be more, and again, I can't be more than friends because it's not in my options right now. I really like to still be friends to him, but I also fear that if I told him about this, he'll start to hate me or something. Secretly dating is also not my option but if you guys can respond fast, that would be really helpful. I'm really tired of being in this situation and my parents are getting suspicious between us, even though we aren't really doing anything but just being friends. What do I do now?
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Update: Right now I kinda see him as just friends and I don't want to be anything more than that but he keeps following me around the school and i lwkey need space ... 💔
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Yeesh girl! The odds are REALLY against you 😬. You could email him as friends so it wouldnt technically be a secret relationship but the most mature option is to HAVE. AN. HONEST. CONVO. with your friend. Acknowledge his feelings and be clear about your situation, to remind him that your parents' rules and his upcoming graduation mean a romantic relationship isn't possible right now. While there's a risk he might be hurt, being direct is the kindest way and doesnt lead him on.
To talk to him be clear and direct, remind him of whats going on, explain that you don't want to risk the friendship (which i think you are..) don't give false hope & say "not right now.." or "it's not a great time for me.." cause then he'll think, oh "maybe later"!! And lastly get ready for the reaction, he might be sad or disappointed. How he reacts to the news is his responsibility, not yours, and a mature friend LISTEN. If he responds like its HORRID, it may be painful, but it shows that a friendship is not what he really wanted & RUN GIRL.RUN!
After the convo; Give him space. Make him chose how this story goes,(Don't. I repeat. DONT chase him if he pulls away.) Avoid creating even MORE suspicion for ur parents' concerns, make sure its public and limited.(Hanging out in friend groups is a good way...)
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To talk to him be clear and direct, remind him of whats going on, explain that you don't want to risk the friendship (which i think you are..) don't give false hope & say "not right now.." or "it's not a great time for me.." cause then he'll think, oh "maybe later"!! And lastly get ready for the reaction, he might be sad or disappointed. How he reacts to the news is his responsibility, not yours, and a mature friend LISTEN. If he responds like its HORRID, it may be painful, but it shows that a friendship is not what he really wanted & RUN GIRL.RUN!
After the convo; Give him space. Make him chose how this story goes,(Don't. I repeat. DONT chase him if he pulls away.) Avoid creating even MORE suspicion for ur parents' concerns, make sure its public and limited.(Hanging out in friend groups is a good way...)
I get what you mean. the thing is that he's wants me so bad where I feel so bad because I can't give him myself because of my situation. I've told him multiple times that we're just friends, knowing that we (painfully and obviously) like each other. I really like hanging out with him, but I know that I'm doomed from the start 💔. He told me that he wants to be a part of my life and I feel bad because I want him to focus on himself too. He's in this mindset where he's so down bad he'll wait for me until I turn 18 so I can finally start dating again, and knowing that it's gonna take a LONG time (I'm a junior in highschool). It's not like I can change him yk? And omg, I keep telling my friends and even him that I'm doomed ever since the crush allegations started back in April, but no one's listening. I do like him but not as much as he loves me 💔💔💔
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Yeesh girl! The odds are REALLY against you 😬. You could email him as friends so it wouldnt technically be a secret relationship but the most mature option is to HAVE. AN. HONEST. CONVO. with your friend. Acknowledge his feelings and be clear about your situation, to remind him that your parents' rules and his upcoming graduation mean a romantic relationship isn't possible right now. While there's a risk he might be hurt, being direct is the kindest way and doesnt lead him on.
To talk to him be clear and direct, remind him of whats going on, explain that you don't want to risk the friendship (which i think you are..) don't give false hope & say "not right now.." or "it's not a great time for me.." cause then he'll think, oh "maybe later"!! And lastly get ready for the reaction, he might be sad or disappointed. How he reacts to the news is his responsibility, not yours, and a mature friend LISTEN. If he responds like its HORRID, it may be painful, but it shows that a friendship is not what he really wanted & RUN GIRL.RUN!
After the convo; Give him space. Make him chose how this story goes,(Don't. I repeat. DONT chase him if he pulls away.) Avoid creating even MORE suspicion for ur parents' concerns, make sure its public and limited.(Hanging out in friend groups is a good way...)
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To talk to him be clear and direct, remind him of whats going on, explain that you don't want to risk the friendship (which i think you are..) don't give false hope & say "not right now.." or "it's not a great time for me.." cause then he'll think, oh "maybe later"!! And lastly get ready for the reaction, he might be sad or disappointed. How he reacts to the news is his responsibility, not yours, and a mature friend LISTEN. If he responds like its HORRID, it may be painful, but it shows that a friendship is not what he really wanted & RUN GIRL.RUN!
After the convo; Give him space. Make him chose how this story goes,(Don't. I repeat. DONT chase him if he pulls away.) Avoid creating even MORE suspicion for ur parents' concerns, make sure its public and limited.(Hanging out in friend groups is a good way...)
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