How to get rid of homophobic bullies
I go to a Christian school and everyone has been saying really bad things about me and warning my friends to stay away from me cause I might turn to them and then my parents are very homophobic. How do I deal?
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I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been going through that! Coming out is a tough experience in general, but it’s especially hard when you feel like your school and your parents aren’t supportive. First of all, if your friends are true friends, they won’t listen to the unkind things other people are saying, and they’ll stand by your side. I hope this is the case, because you deserve friends who are affirming and accepting of you! As for your parents and the other people at school, remember that their behavior isn’t a reflection of your worth. You aren’t doing anything wrong, and you’re perfect just the way you are. Unfortunately, this is an issue on their end, and they still have a lot of learning and growing to do.
In the meantime, it’s especially important to be kind to yourself. I would recommend journaling and repeating positive affirmations, like “I’m worthy of love,” or “I deserve to be accepted for who I am.” Beyond that, spend quality time with the people that make you feel loved and accepted, and lean on them as much as you can. Even if the school at large is being unkind, and you feel like you only have 1 or 2 people you can count on, that can make all the difference. And finally, hang in there! There’s a whole beautiful world of LGBTQ+ accepting people out there waiting to welcome you in the future. I know it feels impossible right now, but you will get through this!
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In the meantime, it’s especially important to be kind to yourself. I would recommend journaling and repeating positive affirmations, like “I’m worthy of love,” or “I deserve to be accepted for who I am.” Beyond that, spend quality time with the people that make you feel loved and accepted, and lean on them as much as you can. Even if the school at large is being unkind, and you feel like you only have 1 or 2 people you can count on, that can make all the difference. And finally, hang in there! There’s a whole beautiful world of LGBTQ+ accepting people out there waiting to welcome you in the future. I know it feels impossible right now, but you will get through this!
Remember that, just because your parents aren't accepting, this has nothing to do with you and your inherent worth. Find people in your life who will accept and celebrate you for who you are. Give your parents time and space as much as possible, and offer them opportunities to learn more about LGBTQ+ identities or to meet other parents who are further along in their acceptance journey, if they are open to it. If your parents are extremely homophobic, you may need to take precautions to protect your own emotional well-being and ensure you will still have home/financial support despite their beliefs.
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Don't worry, as a Hindu, real Christians or people of faith, don't tolerate disrespect to one another. These people have been misled. Though I might disagree with someone's way of life, it doesn't give me the right to coerce them into believing what I want them to believe. Even as a right leaning guy, I support gay and lesbian rights and most Republicans actually do as long as that is not the only facet of your identity, then there's this extremist batch who aren't willing to listen. Indoctrination comes from all sides, and it's better for you to exist in a moderate, peaceful society where ideas can be freely challenged and debated.
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Give them little details about your sexuality, like your personality and your acts, and if your parents sits you down and asks “are you (sexuality)” then you should come out because they will support anyway, trust me.
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