How do you know if someone really wants to be with you?
I have never dated anyone before and I want to open my heart to someone who is serious about being with me but how do I know if someone really wants to be with me?
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I think one of the hardest things about falling in love is how there's no way of knowing if wanting to be with someone feels the exact same way to them as it does to you. There's just no way of knowing exactly what the other person is feeling.
Plus, in any given moment, each of your levels of interest might not be exactly equal, which can lead to vulnerability or self-consciousness. I don't think we talk nearly enough about the vulnerability and courage it takes to let yourself be loved. It requires believing that you are worthy of being loved. It requires surrendering, letting go, and letting somebody in, especially if you have a history of not being cared for.
I think people can feel suspicious when somebody is showing interest in them, and it can feel really overwhelming. Is it really love bombing, or are you just accustomed to crumbs and, therefore, this feast that you're being offered feels actually really confusing? If you have somebody in front of you who seems attuned to you, you should talk to this person, go slowly, and make sure you've got your feet under you as you build something.
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Plus, in any given moment, each of your levels of interest might not be exactly equal, which can lead to vulnerability or self-consciousness. I don't think we talk nearly enough about the vulnerability and courage it takes to let yourself be loved. It requires believing that you are worthy of being loved. It requires surrendering, letting go, and letting somebody in, especially if you have a history of not being cared for.
I think people can feel suspicious when somebody is showing interest in them, and it can feel really overwhelming. Is it really love bombing, or are you just accustomed to crumbs and, therefore, this feast that you're being offered feels actually really confusing? If you have somebody in front of you who seems attuned to you, you should talk to this person, go slowly, and make sure you've got your feet under you as you build something.
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