32 Heartfelt Apology Letters for Your Girlfriend to Win Her Back

If you’ve recently messed up in your relationship and need to write a sincere apology letter to your girlfriend, you’ve come to the right place. We’re here to help with 32 heartfelt apology letters to a girlfriend you can use, or customize as needed. If you’re looking to craft your own apology letters, we’ve also included a guide on writing tips that will let her know how sorry you are, complete with expert advice from an etiquette coach, psychologist, and relationship counselor.

Short Apology Letter to Your Girlfriend

Hi [Name], I am sorry for being inconsiderate. I regret my actions; I didn't think about how my actions would affect you. You are critical to me, and I want to be more mindful of your feelings. I'm genuinely sorry for what I've done, and I ask for your forgiveness.

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Heartfelt Apology Letters to Your Girlfriend

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Dear [Name],

The first time I met you, I said to myself that anyone who had a woman like you in their life would be the luckiest man in the world. I know how lucky I am, yet I don’t show you that at all.

I know that it seems as though I take you for granted, even though in my own mind, that’s not the case. I am always marveling at how wonderful you are and how much I love you. And yet, for some reason, I don’t communicate that to you.

I am going to start, and this letter is the beginning of it. I want to change, and I intend to do so. From now on, I won’t just assume that you know how I feel about you. I will tell you every day.

All I can say is that if you decide to stick with me, I think you’ll find that I am a changed man. I am sorry that I have not shown you how important you are to me. You mean the world to me. Please let me start demonstrating that to you.

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My sweetheart,

I hope you will accept my heartfelt apology for my words and actions. I know I have already told you I’m sorry in person, but I wanted to write this letter to emphasize that I know that I’m in the wrong.

I’ve been tired and stressed out lately, but that’s no excuse. You are the most important person in my life, and I’ve been treating you like you are the least important. That’s the last thing I ever wanted to do.

I realize I have a long way to go to regain your trust, but I hope that I can do so, starting right now.

I’m here when you’re ready to talk to me again. I love you so much, and I want the chance to show you that again.^{[1]
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Dear [Name],

I am sorry. I don't want you to think that I'm saying those words lightly. I know that what I did was wrong, and I know that it hurt you deeply. I wish I could take it back, but I can't. All I can do is try to show you how much I regret what I've done and ask for your forgiveness.

I love you. I will do whatever it takes for you to trust me again, so that we can go back to the way things were.

I take full responsibility for my mistake, so please don't give up on me now. Please forgive me.

I want to see you this weekend. I want to start making it up to you. How about if I make dinner at my place and we rent a good movie? We can cuddle up on the couch under a big blanket and just enjoy being together. Think about it, and I'll call you tonight.^{[2]
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Romantic Apology Letters to Your Girlfriend

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My dear [Name],

I can’t believe I forgot your birthday. I could make a lot of excuses, like saying that you know I’m bad with dates or I’ve been working a lot lately, but all they would be are excuses. The truth is that there is no excuse for being so thoughtless around a wonderful woman like you.

I am so sorry. I know how important this day is for you, and my actions in no way reflect my feelings about you or how much I value you in my life. Words alone are empty, though.

It will never happen again. I’ve made reservations for two at your favorite place on the beach. I want to take you out for dinner, and we’ll spend the weekend doing whatever you want. You don’t have to say yes, but I hope you will. Happy belated birthday, my love. I’m sorry, I was wrong, and I want to make it up to you.^{[3]
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My dearest love,

I’m sorry I have been so inconsiderate to you lately. I’ve had a lot going on with work and family problems, but I know that isn’t your fault or your responsibility. There’s no excuse for taking it out on you, and I want to make it up to you.

I’d love to take you for a weekend away to our favorite spot up by the lake. I just want to show you that I can give you my full attention and that you deserve it. I also want to make up for the way that I’ve been snapping at you and not treating you the way you should be treated.

I hope you’ll accept my apology. It was wrong of me to treat you the way I have over the last few weeks. You’re everything to me, and it’s time I started acting like it.^{[4]
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Dear [Name],

I want to start by saying I am deeply sorry for the careless words I said the other day. Looking back, I realize how thoughtless I was, and I can only imagine how hurtful it must have been for you. The last thing I ever want to do is cause you pain, and I understand that words can have a lasting impact. Please know that my intentions were never to hurt you, but I know that’s what I did.

You mean the world to me, and the last thing I want is to make you feel unimportant. I promise to be more mindful of my words and actions in the future. I love you, and I will always work on being better for you and us.^{[5]
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Loving “I’m Sorry” Letters to Your Girlfriend

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Dear [Name],

I can't begin to express how sorry I am for hurting you. My actions were thoughtless and selfish, and I regret them. You deserve better from me, and I promise to work on being a better partner. Please let me make things right and forgive me.
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Dearest love,

At this moment of challenge in our relationship, we can lean on each other for strength. I humbly come before you knowing that my actions were wrong, and I ask for your forgiveness. I am ashamed, and I pray for your pardon, and I will work on myself to be a better man. Ease your heart, and let forgiveness save our beautiful relationship.^{[6]
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Dear [Name],

I am so sorry for not being there to support you when you needed me the most. You’ve always supported me, and I failed to reciprocate that in a meaningful way. I know this has hurt you, and for that, I’m truly sorry. I promise to be more attentive and ready to support you, both emotionally and physically, in the future.

You deserve my unwavering support, and I will always strive to be there for you.

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Apology Letters to Your Girlfriend After a Fight

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Dear [Name],

I know our recent fight was tough, and I want to apologise for my part. I shouldn't have said what I did, and I'm sorry for any hurtful things I said. I love you, and I value our relationship more than anything. Let's work through this together.^{[7]
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Honey,

Listen. I know you are mad at me and would not want to talk now. I would be in the same position if I were you. I know it should not always be about me, but allow me to say how I feel. You are right about this, and I was inconsiderate of your feelings. I need to improve on that. Please come home, sweetie. We can work through this.^{[8]
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Dear [Name],

I am so sorry for what happened at the party. I was completely insane for doing the things I did and saying the things I said. I don’t know what the hell was wrong with me.

I know you must be feeling very angry and hurt at the things that I said and did, and I understand if you don’t feel like speaking to me right now. If I were in your place, I probably wouldn’t either.

However, please know that I miss you terribly. I miss having my confidant and best friend by my side to share my thoughts and feelings. You know how stupid I can be sometimes. But hurting you, my best friend, is one of the worst things I have done, and I just can’t live with myself if you don’t forgive me.

You can scream at me if you like, but please talk to me. I love you so much.

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Short Apology Letters to Your Girlfriend

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Dear [Name], I am writing to express my deepest apologies for [specific mistake]. I realise now how much pain I have caused you, and I am genuinely sorry. I never intended to hurt you, and I regret my actions more than words can express. Please find it in your heart to forgive me.
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My love,

I am so sorry for [specific mistake]. I regret my actions and the hurt they caused you. You mean everything to me, and I want to make it up to you. Please forgive me and let me prove that I can be a better person.
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Hi [Name], I am sorry for being inconsiderate. I regret my actions; I didn't think about how my actions would affect you. You are critical to me, and I want to be more mindful of your feelings. I'm genuinely sorry for what I've done, and I ask for your forgiveness.^{[9]
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Long “I’m Sorry” Letters to Your Girlfriend

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My dearest love,

You said you needed some time away to think about things, and I hope this letter isn’t interfering with that. I’ve wanted to call or text you 100 times a day, but I’ve respected your request. But I did want to let you know that I am thinking about you almost constantly and that if you decide you want to continue in this relationship, I’m going to do everything I can to show you how much you mean to me.

I’m sorry for all the times I haven’t considered your feelings or haven’t followed through on the things I said I’d do. There’s no excuse for it. I can’t say that I will be perfect in the future because nobody is, but I am going to do everything in my power to be the man that you deserve.

You’re the most important person in the world to me. I love you, and I’m going to start acting like it.^{[10]
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Dear [Name],

I am so sorry for my oversight. After our fight over the weekend, I took some time off to reflect on my behavior. I had been telling you that I had been busy with work, but I missed you. Getting angry and putting you on the spot was crappy of me. I finally understand the disappointment you must have been feeling lately because of how I always prioritize work, even if I can manage some rescheduling.

I promise to be better, keep you in the loop, and discuss things with you before trying to block your calendar for you. I am sorry again, and the next time you want to spend time together, I promise I shall pull every string to make it happen. Please forgive me.

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Genuine Apology Letters to Your Girlfriend

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My sweetheart,

I can’t believe I was so inconsiderate to you last week. I completely forgot that we had made plans, and I scheduled that game with my friends at the same time. I know this looks like I value them over you, but nothing could be further from the truth.

What is true is that I was thoughtless and inconsiderate, and what I did certainly makes it seem as though you’re not a priority in my life.

No one is more important than you, and I’m determined to start showing you how much I mean that. I am very sorry for the way I’ve treated you.

I’d like to take you out to dinner next week, anywhere that you want to go. And I promise I won’t leave you waiting all night this time! Please let me know when you’re ready to talk. I love you.^{[11]
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Hi honey,

I lost my way, and for a moment, I forgot about the person I loved. I prioritized other things of less value in life and neglected my source of happiness. I am very sorry for the pain I have caused while I was away, and I ask you to accept my apologies. I do not want to be an absent father and husband. I will change my ways and will be around for my family as much as possible. We have a bright future as a family, and I ask you to save this relationship.^{[12]
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Dear [Name],

I am so sorry for my inconsiderate behavior last night. I know I acted like a fool and made it even worse by not understanding what you were saying to me. I said ignorant things, and I told you I don’t see a problem. But I promise you, I was not trying to be condescending. It really did not feel like a big deal to me then. But now, after a bit of self-reflection, I think I understand a little more about what hurt you.

I promise I am going to make more efforts in bridging the gap between us and understanding you more each day. Please forgive me, I am learning from this. I would never again tell you that your feelings are unreasonable, and I will try to see things from your perspective right off the bat. I am truly very sorry.

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Emotional Apology Letters to Your Girlfriend

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Dear [Name],

This morning, I went through my apartment and poured out all the alcohol that I had left. I realize that you are right and that for me, there’s no such thing as just one drink. Once I start, I can’t stop, so because you mean everything to me, I’m never going to start again.

I’m looking into a program that will help make sure that I’ve quit for good, but nothing is more important to me right now than telling you I’m sorry. You’ve put up with a lot from me, and none of it has been fair. I take responsibility for my own actions, and I don’t expect to put any of this on you.

I hope we can fix things, though. My life won’t be the same without you in it. I miss your smile. I miss everything about you. When you’re ready, please think about giving me a call so we can talk about it. I love you, and I apologize for how things have been.
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Dear [Name],

I realize I haven’t been listening to you as attentively as I should have. Your thoughts and feelings matter so much to me, and I deeply regret not giving you the attention you deserve. I promise to be more present when you’re speaking and to make a conscious effort to understand you better. You deserve to be heard, and I will do better moving forward. Please forgive me.
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Dear [Name],

I hope this letter finds you in good spirits. I’ve been reflecting on my recent behavior, and I realize that I owe you an apology. I am sorry for the times I ignored you, and I want to acknowledge the hurt and frustration it may have caused.

Life can get overwhelming, but that doesn’t justify my actions. I understand the importance of communication in a relationship, and I regret not being there for you when you needed me. Your feelings are valid, and I want to make things right.

I promise to be more attentive and present in our relationship moving forward. Your happiness means the world to me, and I am committed to being a better partner.^{[13]
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Cute Apology Letters to Your Girlfriend

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Dearest [Name],

I am among the luckiest guys in the world to have a goddess like you. Unfortunately, I don’t know how I ended up messing this up. Seemingly, I may have just messed up with the most incredible person in my life. I admit my mistake, and I'm willing to do anything to win your heart back. Now that you have been away, I have realized how much I love you and will cherish you if you return to my world.
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My dear,

I’m sorry for hurting your feelings. I genuinely apologize for what I said. How thoughtless could I get? I suppose I wasn’t thinking in any way, shape, or form. Whatever I said was not respectful to you, but I want you to know that I value you, and you are the most impressive and wonderful person I have ever known. I promise to be mindful of what I say, and I hope you choose to give me a second chance, and I will change for the better. Can you forgive me?^{[14]
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Dear [Name],

I realize now that I have taken you for granted, and I am truly sorry. Your love, your support, and your kindness have always been there for me, and I haven’t always appreciated you the way you deserve.

You are an incredible person, and I should have shown you more gratitude every day. I want to make it clear that I see everything you do for me, and I will work hard to never take you or your love for granted again.

Please forgive me for not expressing how much I truly value you.

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Creative Apology Letters to Your Girlfriend

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Dear [Name],

I have no excuses, and no matter how you look at the situation, I am the one who wronged you. It is understandable to be furious because what I did was unacceptable by any standards. It was a stupid and immature way of handling the situation. I sincerely apologize, and all I ask is forgiveness because I am willing to make things right in the future. Can we meet up to talk?^{[15]
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Hi honey,

I have hurt you and am drowning in the pit of remorse. I have wronged you multiple times and mistreated you. I feel guilty. Everything has been rosy and beautiful since we started this relationship, and I don’t want to end it so soon. Could you find it in your heart to forgive me?^{[16]
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“I’m Sorry” For Cheating Letters to Your Girlfriend

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My dear [Name],

I know that I have betrayed you in one of the worst ways possible. I’m so sorry. There’s nothing I can say to change that, although if I only had one wish in my whole life, it would be to alter the past so that it never happened. I can’t do that, but I can promise you wholeheartedly that it will never happen again.

All of this has made me realize how incredibly lucky I am to have a woman like you in my life. I love you so much, and I understand if you feel like you can’t trust me any longer and want to move on. But I hope you’ll see how sincere I am and allow me to start showing you from this minute forward how much you mean to me and what a great partner I can be to you.

Please know that you are on my mind constantly, and all I want to do is make you happy.
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Dear [Name],

This letter is the hardest I’ve ever had to write, but it’s also the most necessary. I have made a mistake that has deeply hurt you and our relationship, a mistake for which I am profoundly sorry. Cheating is inexcusable, and no words can adequately express the remorse I feel for betraying your trust and our love.

I want you to know that my actions were a result of my own weaknesses and failings, and they are not a reflection of you or our relationship. You have been nothing but loving, caring, and supportive to me, and you did not deserve to be treated this way.

I am deeply sorry for the hurt I have caused you and the damage I have done to our relationship. I hope that, in time, we can find a way to heal and move forward, whether together or apart. Thank you for reading this letter and for considering my apology.^{[17]
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Apology Letters to Your Ex-Girlfriend

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Dear [Name],

I know what I said hurt you deeply. The moment those words left my lips, I knew that I couldn't act fast enough to retract them. Your reaction was justified. If someone whom I cared about had said such things to me, I would have reacted the same way. "I'm sorry" doesn't seem to be adequate. I wish I knew how to say it better.

I love you—please believe me. We've shared so much. Let's share healing, too.

Can you give me another chance? I promise you will find a better me.

Until then, I will be hoping and praying we can put this behind us.^{[18]
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Dearest [Name],

I messed up, and even though I would like to have you back now, I know it will take time to heal. My behaviour was irresponsible, disrespectful, and shaming of our relationship. I understand if you do not want to talk to me, and I will be patient with you. Even as you heal, know that I love you and would not want to lose you. I will not behave like that again, and I plan to make you feel appreciated and greatly loved.^{[19]
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A Guide to Writing Apology Letters to Your Girlfriend

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Say exactly how you feel. Writing a letter of heartfelt apology messages to your girlfriend means expressing yourself clearly. Start by apologizing to her, and don’t stop there—use your apology letter to talk about what happened and how sorry you are for how it made her feel, too. If you miss her and have regrets, don’t keep them to yourself.^{[20]
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- For example, say, “I know my behavior the other night made you upset. I hate that my inconsiderate comments about your work hurt you so much. I’m so sorry and want to make it up to you.”
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Be specific about what happened. When writing apology paragraphs, avoid simply saying “I’m sorry for what I did”; instead, apologize by taking the time to mention the details surrounding the bad situation you’re apologizing for.^{[21]
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- For example, say “When I ignored your news about your family and walked into the other room like I didn’t care, I saw how much it bothered you. Your calling me selfish was completely justified.”
- Etiquette coach Tami Claytor suggests that “the first thing is to say I apologize. Be very specific as to what your apology is. State what your good intention was, then follow it up by saying I'm not trying to make any excuses. I know that I hurt you. And I hope you forgive me.”^{[23]
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Take responsibility for your actions and express genuine remorse. Tell her how much you’re aware that what you did was your fault. Avoid making excuses in your apology message so you come off as innocent. If you acknowledge your part in the disagreement or fight you had, your girlfriend is more likely to want to patch things up.^{[24]
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- For example, say “I know my forgetting to pick you up as planned was completely my fault. I should have reminded myself about it, especially since you mean the world to me.”
- Licensed clinical psychologist Gera Anderson, PsyD, recommends “acknowledging their feelings, along with any actions on your part that may have led to those feelings. If you regret your actions, apologize for your actions. If you do not regret your actions, apologize that your actions made her people feel that way, for that was not your intent.”^{[25]
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- Relationship counselor Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW, agrees that “the most important thing is to be accountable. So if you know that you made a mistake, immediately apologize. You want to be accountable, show remorse for what you've done, and be willing to work on it going forward.”^{[26]
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Ask for forgiveness and share your hope for reconciliation. Just as you began your apology letter with “I’m sorry,” it’s good to reiterate your apology at the end. Let her know how sorry you are, and be positive about hoping for a reconciliation between the two of you. Send her your sincerest hopes for a bright future and be ready to make it happen.^{[27]
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- For example, say “I’m truly sorry about everything that’s happened. I want nothing more than to ask for your forgiveness and commit myself to our relationship. I know in my heart we’ve got a great future ahead of us.”
- If you’re wondering, “How do I apologize to my girlfriend?”, check out our forum!
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End your letter of apology with a meaningful closing. At the end of your letter, include a loving closing that shows her how much you love her. She’ll know you’re being honest from start to finish and will be more likely to give you another chance. Some thoughtful closings are ahead:
- All my love.
- Please forgive me.
- I love you so much.
- Yours always.